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Bump envy?

(19 Posts)
itsallinmyhead Wed 21-Nov-12 10:09:33

Have my bump ladies!

I'm 38 weeks now and was a size 8-10 before becoming pg.

This is DC2 & i've been showing since around 9 or 10 weeks.

Since then, all i've heard is it's twins, are you sure there's only one? He's going to be massive, are you sure you have the right due date etc. I've also been called 'octomum'. angry

Despite being quite slim previously to falling pg, it's something i've always had to work hard to maintain & the comments I receive (even from my midwife, who never fails to mention how massive I am or how I look like I'm ready to pop) cut to the bone...I am still a woman who needs to work hard to not pile weight on.

I have bump envy, envy for a cute, little bump.

chairchairchair Tue 20-Nov-12 19:34:02

I had that in my first pregnancy LeftWing - I really hated being near other pregnant women who were clearly more pregnant than me!! Felt like they'd got a better score on an exam than me or something!!

Now I have envy of any woman with a bump - takes me a few seconds every time to realise that I have a 2 yr old and am 26wks with #2!! It's very odd.

I don't have bump envy I have further-on-than-me envy.

VeremyJyle Wed 17-Oct-12 17:28:20

I vaguely remember still no drfined bump at each 20 week scan, but besides bra and jeans feeling tighter I don't feel or look any different at all sad I went to view my notes today (unrelated) and the woman escorting even commented "ooh I was showing by your stage"
Maybe its just a grass is always greener debate

Hevaniceday Tue 16-Oct-12 12:31:52

definately feeling better now i look pregnant rather than just fat (18 wk today) as im only small anyway (size 8). most people didnt even realise I was pregnant, just "looking more healthy" or "like everyone else now". Felt like a huge fat lump for weeks, husband agrees defiantely look pregnant, rest of the world thinks i look the same. Now ive got proper maternity clothes that fit right and a touch further on definately feeling better about my bump.

There are three other women in my workplace that are due similar times, one three weeks ahead of me, one three weeks behind me and one 10 weeks behind me so its all fun and games in our office at the mo LOL

itsaruddygame Tue 16-Oct-12 11:55:23

I defo have bump envy. I am 16 weeks tomorrow and just look slightly bloated! Looking forward to actually looking pregnant grin and not just fat!

tamster83 Tue 16-Oct-12 09:33:26

I'm 18-6 days and I just look and feel feel fat ! this is my 4th baby thought I had a bump by now with all the others ...

Dinosaurdrip Mon 15-Oct-12 22:32:59

I get terrible bump envy and have done each time. I work with a girl who is 2 weeks ahead of me (pregnancy wise) and I was elated the other day when we had a 'bump off' and my bump was deemed the biggest. (yes I am a 31 yr old child)

Doraemon Mon 15-Oct-12 19:28:05

I hardly looked pregnant at all with DC1 until late on and definitely had bump envy. Was bigger with DC2 but again not really big (and both DCs arrived very early so I never got as big as I should have iykwim). Am now nearly 20 weeks with DC3 and I think I have a quite a big bump as it's definitely bigger than the last two, but I still get comments about how small it is! And it's still uncomfortable, not quite sure how a baby and all my internal organs are all squished in there together.... no room left for my bladder at any rate envy

mummy2benji Mon 15-Oct-12 17:25:23

veremy don't worry, your bump will soon appear and then grow continuously until you are waddling around bemoaning the fact that she / he is squashing your bladder all the time! It won't be long smile (38+2 here wih dc2)

ladymia Mon 15-Oct-12 16:36:08

i am also 18 weeks and can't wait to look pregnant rather than fat smile

stargirl1701 Mon 15-Oct-12 16:30:27

It took me totally by surprise!

PrincessPumpkinshoutsBOO Mon 15-Oct-12 16:15:36

You may share mine, with the stupid thoughtless comments that come with it. I am 11 weeks, usually a size 16 and have in the last couple of weeks developed a 'bump' nice and round just at the front sad I was the same with ds 3 years ago, water retention in the early weeks look just like a bump and it just gets bigger and bigger eventually filling with giant 10lb baby. I went to m & s for a bra fitting yesterday and the woman asked how far along I was, told her 11 weeks and she just looked at me and said 'well your putting it on then aren't you' shock I now have 6 month's of 'are you sure there is only one in there' 'your a big one aren't you' and a very simple 'good lord look how big you are' to look forward to sad

VeremyJyle Mon 15-Oct-12 16:04:05

Stargirl I get that completely, its like having a playmate in the bath, wriggling all over the place, afterwards there's no bump, sag waiting to settle back and a baby feet away threatening to wake at any minute and disturb the peace grin

stargirl1701 Mon 15-Oct-12 15:52:33

My LO is now 5 weeks old...I burst into tears a week after she was born when I was sitting in the bath and realised I had no bump to stroke. I missed my bump! Daft! grin

terilou87 Mon 15-Oct-12 15:40:32

i did want to look pregnant earlier on but now that i do i envy people with smaller bumps i'm mahoosive and uncomfortable and tired and generally just want to have him now!! (stamps feet). mydaydream i'm pretty much the same as you, i now refer to myself as a weeble i can no longer walk it's more of a rocking side to side to get where i want. and the local shop is as far as i can bare pain wise, 3 weeks and 2 days till due day, so not too long now grin

VeremyJyle Mon 15-Oct-12 15:29:50

Tbf DM pointed out its more uncomfortable but I just want to look pregnant <stomps feet> even at the end I was still diddy in previous three pgs sad

MyDaydream Mon 15-Oct-12 15:24:29

I did earlier on in my pregnancy, every time I thought I was getting bigger and more pregnant looking I'd see loads of ladies much bigger and bumpier than me.
Now I just envy people who look about as pregnant as me but who seem to be gliding around pain free while I'm hobbling around with a grimace on my face!

VeremyJyle Mon 15-Oct-12 15:15:40

Am I the only one who envies other people's bumps? With DD1 I attended ante natal classes, was a few weeks ahead of the other women but they all had beautiful round bumps, I had a bit of podge (I'm normally 12-14 so bit of podge anyway) I'm now nearly 18 weeks with DC4 and there's nothing... at all!

Am I the only one feels inferior (tad emotional today) and not 'really' pregnant as there's nothing to show? sad

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