Pregnant with no. 3 / 4 / 5...?!

[LimeLeafLizard]

Just wondering if anyone else is pg with their 3rd, 4th, 5th, or more?!

I am newly pg with baby number 4 and finding it a bit different this time.

Yesterday I flicked through a couple of magazines but the content didn't seem that relevant to me. I am quietly happy but not nearly as excited or nervous as I was before, especially the first time.

I know what kind of birth I want (same as the last two times) and I don't need to buy any stuff, so there doesn't seem so much to think about, at least until the scan.

I am also a bit worried about how other people are going to react when we tell them. There seems to be a general view that wanting 4 children must make us mad.

Hope I am not alone?!

[morecoffeemorecoffee]

Hi lime congratulations! I'm pregnant with number 3! I'm only 4/5 wks. How far are you? I'm not as nervous as previous pregnancies, but still worrying something will go wrong. I have sold/passed on lots of our baby stuff from my first 2dc, so will have some stuff to buy. What sort of birth are you hoping for?

[4kidsnobump]

Hi Lime congratulations!

I'm currently 19 weeks with no.5. I completely get the worrying about other peoples reactions! We have only told close family and friends so far. Am waiting until after the 20 week scan, and then will tell the DC's and I guess everyone else will find out then (the kids always want to tell everyone they are having a new brother or sister!) How old are your other DC's?

I have also only been back at work a few months after having DC4 so am really not looking forward to telling them I will be on maternity leave again soon . I think I will be giving up work this time though....am finding it nearly impossible to organise all the DC's and also try and concentrate on work stuff...

Morecoffee we got rid of all our baby boy stuff as DC4 was a girl, and we weren't planning any more....so if it ends up being a boy we will have to get some more stuff (mainly clothes!)

I also keep having the odd panic about coping with another one...especially if I'm having a bad day with the other DC's...but I guess we will just muddle along and get through it all somehow! I have to admit some days even I think I am nuts having 5!

[OnlyWantsOneTwoAndThree]

I'm 31 weeks with dc3

The only things that need to be bought are some new born nappies. We have everything else. I bought shit loads of mat pads yesterday so hopefully sorted. Which is a huge relief. Some of my friends are having their firsts around the same time as us and they are out shopping etc for baby xrap all the time!!

I haven't bought any clothes for this one. Dc 1 & 2 are girls and don't know gender of this one but I'm sure we can muddle through - I have lots of white sleep suits etc

The only thing I worry about is getting out with 3 on my own as dd2 is 18 months and FAST!

[felixstow84]

Congratulations everyone. I am 25 weeks with no3. Thought family was complete but accidents happen.
My youngest is 6 so the whole thing feels brand new.
However, I think I am more anxious this time. I realistically know this is my last and I do worry that things may go wrong.
I had started getting rid of stuff. Glad it took me so long.
Know this birth will be a csections as had two previously. One crash and 1 failed vbac.

[javotte]

I'm 21 weeks with dc3. We already have a boy and a girl so I don't need to buy anything.
Many people have asked if the pregnancy was planned (it was) and can't understand who could want a third child when they already have "one of each".

[LimeLeafLizard]

Hey everyone, thanks for your replies!

morecoffee I recognise your name from the ttc boards! (You were on the 'month-bfp' threads I think - I was on the 'sleigh' ones!) Congratulations! I am 5 +1 weeks so similar to you.

Last two times I had a straightforward home birth, would love the same again if all goes well.

Onlywants at first timers out shopping for baby crap all the time... BIL and SIL are like that! But I was the same with DC1! I have 3 boys but like you won't be buying more clothes until after the baby is born, my newborn clothes are fairly neutral anyway.

4kids, you'll have to name change soon, then! Glad you know what I mean about telling other people. I want to tell my DC but I know they'd instantly tell everyone else so I can't. They are 7, 4 and 23 months. Actually I did tell DC3 quietly the other day, knowing he wouldn't have a clue what I meant! How old are yours?

felix congrats! It will be lovely for your DC to help you with their new sibling! How have they reacted so far?

javotte -yes, that kind of reaction from others is what makes me about telling people. Because I have 3 boys I anticipate lots of 'bet you'd like a girl' comments.

[felixstow84]

Thank you. Yes, they are thrilled. Especially older one who was desparate for a baby brother or sister.

[morecoffeemorecoffee]

I thought I recognised your name too lime ! Have you been ttc long? I'm feeling really nauseous at the moment :( but in a twisted way I'm glad as its reassuring me :) home birth sounds lovely :) I will be having csection previous 2 were also csections. Still got cot, bedding and plenty of clothes, but need car seat, pushchair, plus depending how breast feeding goes, bottles, steriliser etc! Yikes!

Yes, I remember the days of endless shopping during my 1st pregnancy! So funny. My dsis was the same with her 1st.

[notsoold]

Hi there....we are on pg number 3 but with a longer gap between these pregnancy and our 13 yo ds...
It means we haven't got a thing But we are not desesparate to buy as I know how much goes waste.
I might start to buy at 12 week (next week)

[CountryKitty]

Hi I'm almost 8 weeks with DC3 and can't wait to have all the chaos and noise that comes with a bigger family! We mc in February and again in March so our families know we were ttc and will probably be expecting an announcement soon. Got an early scan next week and so hoping everything goes well.

Also don't need to buy a thing unless its a boy as got 2 girls aged 7 & 4. Agree with the magazine - not really relevant any more and was so disappointed as I used to love reading them when pg with dd1&2.

I'm so jealous of those of you expecting numbers 4 & 5 - how lovely!

[GizzyBoo]

Hi there.

24 weeks with #4 here
There is a gap of almost 10 years between this baby and my youngest so I think that is adding to the excitement. None of us can wait! I am also trying to stop and savour every moment as I know from experience how quickly this time passes and I want to remember these days.

I am picking bits and bobs up for the baby as we have nothing saved from the others but to be honest we won't be needing much. A lot of the stuff out these is overpriced tat you are guilted in to buying. I know from experience how little its used. So this is a baby on a budget

[LimeLeafLizard]

It is interesting to read the replies and hear different povs!

Kitty so sorry to hear about your miscarriages, I hope your scan goes well next week.

Gizzy yes I totally get wanting to remember and savour every moment -this will be our last baby and once you realise how quickly the whole thing goes, it seems more important to enjoy it.

MoreCoffee we have been trying since the start of this year -so conceived on the 6th cycle. Seemed to take ages at the time, but in hindsight I think we're lucky it wasn't longer -I am almost 37!

[4kidsnobump]

Limeleaf mine are 6 (next week!), 5 , 2 next month and 1 in August. No 5 is due in Nov so this will be our first winter baby! My DC would also tell everyone! For some reason I am always paranoid that something will go wrong so that's why I'm holding off telling them until after the 20 week scan!

Are everyone else's planned baby's? This one was definately not...DH was already booked in for the snip when we found out...he has since had it, so this will definately be our last (unless we are the 1 in 2000 or whatever the statistic is for the snip failing!)

Defiantely can agree on the 'baby stuff' buying. When I look at all the stuff I bought for DC1 & 2 (a boy and girl), I can't believe how much there is - particularly clothes! Although on the positive side we have bought next to nothing for DC3 & 4 (also boy and girl!) as I had kept everything . I can't seem to move for all the dresses which belonged to DD1, and are now being worn by DD2...I don't know when I thought she would have time to wear all these things!

[4kidsplusbump]

Oh and thanks for reminding me...have updated my name now

[Dinosaurdrip]

Hi I'm 12 weeks with no3 have 2ds (4&2). I have a friend at work who is pregnant with no1 and the difference is amazing. She wants to talk about it all the time, and ask questions about this and that, which is understandable whereas I just want to quietly savour what will be my last pregnancy.

I am also getting so many people asking if it was planned and when I say yes they say ah I bet you just want a girl....er no!

Congratulations to you all.

[bloomingmarvellous]

Im approx 4 weeks with number four. After three girls a boy would be nice but all the gender prediction sites are confident that its a girl, and they have proved to be right with my previous girls

[carries]

Hi, I'm 5 wks with no3, total shock & unplanned. Just did test on Tuesday & have gone through a whirlwind of emotions. But both DH and I are so happy and excited now. DH has been grinning since I told him. Maybe hysteria :). We have 2Dd, 8 & 5, youngest will be 6 when baby due. So excited about having a bigger family! Excited & embarrassed about telling people as I was so adamant there would be no more babies! I have no baby equipment, clothes, advice books or toys anymore as I gave it all away! So we are starting from scratch. I wondered round mothercare in a daze the other day. I forgot I would need to buy mat bras, mat clothes (none of them left either), new pram, car seat, cot etc... But so happy that we'll have a mad crazy bigger family!

[LimeLeafLizard]

Yes, for us this was planned, we always wanted 4 children.

Blooming, those gender sites haven't been right for me. DS2 and DS3 are often predicted as being girls and I myself should be a man according to some of them! I expect a fourth boy though... I'd love a daughter but I think DH and I are just made to have boys. My sons are all totally different personalities though.

carries, wow, that must take some adjusting too! What a nice surprise! Are you happy about the opportunity to do all the shopping again?!

4kids maybe if DC5 is a girl she will be able to use up all the dresses that DD2 won't?

[carries]

Limeleaf - adjusting to it really well! So happy! Looking forward to buying mat clothes & new buggy! But which I'd kept stuff now :-/

[4boyzmum]

Hi there.....28 weeks with #5! not planned but after initial shock extremely happy. had the same feeling when telling folk that we were having another one....kind of nervous and embarrassed to tell people, but then i felt really cross with myself for allowing other peoples opinions to bother me and take the shine off our happy news if u get me? in the beginning we got the usual 'you must be mental' or 'dont you have a tv?' comments, also as we have all boys then EVERYONE assumes im in some mad, psychotic bid to get a daughter!! so not the case at all. baby #5 is a boy and tbh boy or girl was irrelevant, as cliched as it sounds i'll just thank my lucky stars that we get a healthy baby at the end of my pregnancy. some people even make ridiculous comments like 'aww, never mind' or 'OH NO!' when we tell them we're having another boy! morons!! as we didnt plan on #5 then alot of baby stuff was car-booted or given to friends etc. still have a few bits and bobs including pram, cot and carseat, but its lovely to have to buy teeny-tiny clothes again!! altho its done with a more 'sensible' approach now im an old hand at it all!! still fun tho, and can't wait to hold and cuddle my newborn son when he arrives...feel all excited now!!

[LimeLeafLizard]

Hi 4boyz, thanks for your post - I even read it to DH to show him we weren't the only ones with these thoughts about telling other people. I am especially worried about them saying negative things like 'oh no' in front of my DC.

There are some lovely teeny tiny boy clothes in the shops at the moment not that I have been looking already, although I suppose they'll be the wrong season for your new baby.

[Babieseverywhere]

I'm 33 weeks pregnant with DC4. I can't believe how fast things are going this time. Looking forward to our last little arrival. :)

[4kidsplusbump]

4boyz good to see someone else is on no.5! I think some of my problem is that I don't really know anyone with than about 3 kids, and many of my good friends only have 1 or 2 kids, so I do feel very in the minority with my gang!

Limeleaf it would be very handy if this one was a girl, as have zero boys stuff now.....but I have a feeling it is a boy - my bump is pretty massive for a start, and I was bigger with both my boys. Scan a week on Monday, and we will hopefully find out, so I can get myself organised with who is sharing with who! Currently have the oldest 2 in together (girl and boy) and the younger 2 have a room each....so will have to see what the new baby is before sorting out the bedrooms (again!)

carries I also told everyone after no. 4 there would be no more....and just recently everyone keeps asking me if we are having any more! Am trying to not tell too may people until after the 20 week scan and we have told the kids!

[4boyzmum]

Hi 4kids im def in minority too. im youngest out of my gang of friends so my bf has grown up kids...even a gran herself! my other bf is childless and determined to stay so!! other close friends like yours only have 1 or 2 kiddies so with my gaggle of lads we're a formidable invitation to any event! plus as my eldest is 13 and youngest is not quite 2 we're a real mixed bag!! but wouldnt have it any other way! its great!

Limeleaf sadly people did say insensitive comments about us not having a girl in front of my kids tho only oldest 2 could understand the meaning behind the 'oh no' reaction. thankfully they both totally know and understand that in no way am i disappointed with the fact that i have lads, in fact they know that im incredibly proud when i tell people how many children i have...and that they're all boys! and goes without saying that they think these people and their stupid comments are ridiculous too! still amazes me tho how tact and good manners fly out of the window when you're pregnant. you seem to be a free for all for any tom, dick or harry to comment on your lifestyle, weight, size...you name it!

[LimeLeafLizard]

4boyz sorry to hear that, but you're right, people say all manner of rudethoughtless things to a pregnant woman, comments about gender is only one of them. That part I am not looking forward to!

4kids good luck with your scan today, hope all is OK. I'd love to know how it goes when you tell your kids.