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Pregnant at 48 years old-Are there any other older mums-to-be out there?

(42 Posts)
belle453 Sun 14-Nov-10 16:45:50

I am 6 weeks pregnant and 48 years old. I am extremely scared and worried about the massive implications of this. This will be my first child after suffering a miscarraige at 40 and never conceiving since. I am certainly not delighted. If the baby does go to full term and is healthy which is the main concern obviously I am then going to have to deal with the age thing. The few friends of mine who have children are all in their 20s and I have a step-daughter of 28. Help I want my life back already!!!

Mexicantortilla Wed 30-Jul-14 04:41:59

Hi, I'm 45 and expecting my DC4, I have 2 teenagers and a 4 yo, all DD's. I had DD3 4weeks after my 41st birthday and I worried about how old I was looking back it really wasn't an issue and I coped every bit as well as with my earlier pregnancies, I love her to bits and couldn't and wouldn't imagine life without her, I'm not sure how I feel about this pregnancy but I'm sure I'll get through it! I don't look or feel my age and will probably knock a few years off if anyone asks me grin
Congratulations and I'll hold your hand thanks

pinkbubsy3 Tue 29-Jul-14 09:53:57

i am pregnant and 48 its my 6Th child all the others were from my husband ,this child will have a different dad ,and he is an alcoholic ,not sure if i should keep !! hate the termination idea,all my children are hard working and wonderfull

lucy101 Wed 29-Jan-14 06:57:21

Hi there, 7 months pregnant and creeping towards 45! Actually very common indeed where I am in London so no one blinks an eye. I have lots of older mum friends. Women have always had babies into their 40's, the peak of births to older mums was in 1946 if I remember correctly. Best of luck!

Loulou1968 Wed 29-Jan-14 01:19:05

I was quite shocked to be pregnant at 43, but am now 45 and have a beautiful healthy daughter. She brings me joy every day. She is my 4th child, my eldest being 22, and just made me a grandparent lol, makes me feel younger being an older mum

Xenadog Thu 26-Sep-13 20:08:50

My mum had me at 44 - it can be done! I wish you well x

eggcup Thu 26-Sep-13 20:05:52

Someone told me about a woman who's written about having babies in their 40's. Her name is Claudia Spahr and I think the book is called Right Time Baby. Basically alot more positive than the kinds of messages that come at us older mums from GPs, society in general...
Congratulations Belle, wishing you all the best xx

Isabeller Mon 12-Aug-13 13:16:47

Xena you will find yourself doing fun things you never thought of before! There is masses to look forward to, like getting a whole new dimension. smile

Xenadog Mon 12-Aug-13 08:21:01

I turned 40 a couple of months ago and I am due to give birth in December. This is baby number 1 (and only!) and also totally unplanned. It is only now at 22 weeks when I am starting to come around to the idea that I will be a parent and things will be OK.

I have really mourned the loss of what I thought my life would be - just before finding I was PG I moved in with my partner, and was planning on moving jobs and just wanted time to do fun things like holidays, socialising etc. I've spent my life pleasing myself and doing whatever I want to when I want.

Now however I can see that my new life will be incredibly different to "the plan" but this doesn't mean it's all terrible.

OP, the only advice I can give is that pregnancy is for 9 months for a reason - it gives you time to adjust and work through the worries. I was horrified when I got my BFP and every week I have a meltdown and cry about what I am losing but now there is something in me which is feeling positive now and I love feeling the baby movement inside.

Just wanted you to know someone else has felt/is feeling the same as yourself - give yourself time lovely to adjust. xxx

Isabeller Mon 12-Aug-13 06:32:59

I will be 49 when my baby is born in January 2014 (IVF DE).

I had my first catty comments on Saturday 'no one will believe you are the baby's Mum' from my adult DD's friend's mother but DP's friends couldn't be more thrilled and supportive and both our families are too. Adult DD is also 'officially' expecting now after her 12 week scan!

How are you 2havefath? Good to read your common sense comment snowqu33n.

Meringue33 Mon 12-Aug-13 05:54:09

Congrats. I have a friend who is 48 and has just had her first (IVF). Baby is lovely happy & healthy.

snowqu33n Mon 12-Aug-13 04:45:26

Hey, not sure if OP is still around, but there seem to be others in their forties expecting. FWIW, I am 44 expecting baby at Christmas. Happy and all seems well at the moment. Congratulations to the other mums-to-be, stay positive you have so much to offer your babies. People have been having babies in their 40s for hundreds of years.

nensey Mon 12-Aug-13 02:58:59

as also i am in my forties please advise.

nensey Mon 12-Aug-13 02:49:25

Hello i want to follow up on your pregnancy.

2havefaith Tue 04-Jun-13 01:31:54

I think I know what you are experiencing. I just recently discovered that I am pregnant. I am also 48. I am in my 7th week. First time pregnant. I honestly thought I was too old to get pregnant. Some of the same fears go through my head, but then I believe that this little baby is a miracle. If this baby is meant to be here then he/she will be here. The whole dr. experience has been a bit overwhelming and somewhat traumatizing. The challenge for me has been to trust what I know to be true. You are not alone.

bobby39 Tue 23-Apr-13 17:35:49

I have just had my first baby at 47. I was very depressed, distressed and terrified to tell people. I was also worried sick about whether she would be healthy.
I now have a beautiful happy healthy baby daughter and everybody is overjoyed for me even people that work in the local supermarket. My midwife said that there are lot's of women in there forties having babies now. Her father was extremely angry when I told him I was pregnant he now adores her. Try to enjoy this time and it isn't that big a deal as you think it is.xx

bobby39 Tue 23-Apr-13 17:32:50

I have just had my first baby at 47. I was very depressed, distressed and terrified to tell people. I was also worried sick about whether she would be healthy.
I now have a beautiful happy healthy baby daughter and everybody is overjoyed for me even people that work in the local supermarket. My midwife said that there are lot's of women in there forties having babies now. Her father was extremely angry when I told him I was pregnant he now adores her. Try to enjoy this time and it isn't that big a deal as you think it is.xx

lovette Mon 22-Nov-10 00:15:24

Hello,
I just want to offer encouragement for you. I am so happy for you. I pray you will truly enjoy this pregnancy and that all will go well for you!!! If you feel sad or down about this, know that there is somewhere supporting and praying for you and the new baby
Sincerely,
Lovette

1derful Thu 18-Nov-10 23:15:36

Congratulations. I have just had my first baby at 46 after 2 mcs. I am so happy with my gorgeous girl and I may even try for another! Good luck.

tea4tw0 Wed 17-Nov-10 21:14:04

I'm 5 weeks pregnant - this will be my first - i had a mc earlier this year - all being well i will be 42 when the baby arrives - and yes i'm scared too. I have no idea what to expect or what each twinge etc means - Am glad to have found mumsnet it's a real comfort zone )

gotmunchies Wed 17-Nov-10 19:27:28

Thanks Loo. Let's keep it bumped! And congrats to all the 'older' mums...I'm going to start to say 'wiser' mums. wink

lilly13 Wed 17-Nov-10 11:00:36

congratulations!! unfortunately, i do not have any advice. just wanted to wish you a very good pregnancy and healthy baby! you are very brave and should be very proud of yourself!

LooL00 Wed 17-Nov-10 10:20:45

here

I've just had dc3 and I'm now 44.

gotmunchies Tue 16-Nov-10 22:54:32

spiderlight...that was a really lovely message for belle :-)

belle, hope you can soon start to look ahead and think about all the wonderful joys and blessings a child brings to life.

Does anyone know where the threads about older mums are? I can't find them?
Thx

spiderlight Tue 16-Nov-10 22:43:11

From the other side of the issue, my parents had me when they were 46 and 47, after 14 years of trying. They were apparently terrified but it was fine and they were wonderful, wonderful parents to me. The age thing very rarely bothered me and really was not an issue at all, although losing my mum at 33, before she became a grandmother, was very hard.

What you are feeling is natural - I felt the same when I was pregnant at 34. Your life will change, but you have so much love and joy and wonder ahead of you (and exhaustion and frustration and piles...!! ;) ) Good luck with it all, and I hope it all goes smoothly.

gotmunchies Tue 16-Nov-10 22:34:47

Hi belle

First, congratulations! Being pregnant at any age can be scary and really daunting, more so if it's your first. Loads of women are having babies now in their forties. I'm hoping to get pg soon with my 3rd and I'm 40 next year, dh will be nearly 50...we'd like to make it to 4dc so I'll be into my early 40's if all goes to plan. Definitely worth checking out the older mum tread if you can find it. There seem to be enough out there that you aren't such an oddity.

My friend has just had her 6th dc she's 46! Honestly, having a baby is exhausting at any age.

I'm sure you are in shock but hope you can start to celebrate and see this as a blessing soon. Bugger what others say.

Good luck!

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