are we doing ok?

[diamondsandtiaras]

Just need some reassurance really!! PFB and all that....

DD1 took her nappy off first thing sat morning and has been nappy free during the day since. We are having a couple of wee accidents a day and a poo in the pants this morning. usually she will just take herself to the potty when she needs to go, although I am doing a lot of prompting when I can see her having a fiddle etc! We are giving lots of praise etc etc.

I guess I would really like to know if this level of accidents is normal and how long they are likely to continue for, in your experience. we have stayed at home all week so far to try and crack it properly, but I'm starting to go stir crazy!! I just don't feel confident that we will be able to go to the park or toddler groups without accidents and puddles all over the floor.........anyone got any words of encouragement? Please? I really feel like i don't know what I'm doing with this....

[fairimum]

I think we are at the same stage as you! DD decided she wasn't going to wear a nappy after her nap on Saturday! We are going to tumble tots today (as already paid) but I am going to put her in a pull up - just so don't have to deal with it all, but take potty and offer before we leave, when we get there, after class etc. I wouldn't worry about the park, just take lots of changes of clothes - we have just got a 'my carry potty' which seems great so far!

to be honest I don't feel like I have any idea what I am doing either and was all ready to give up on Tuesday night, but then Wednesday more she got up and asked for a wee and has now progressed to going for a wee as soon as she sits on the potty rather than sitting there for 10/15/20 mins at a time!

I am going to give it until the weekend, as everyone keeps saying need to give it a week to see if any improvement! JUst wish these toddlers came with instructions!

[Bexstar5]

Good luck! It isn't easy and takes a lot longer than people would have you believe. You have to stick with it...even when you think they have mastered it, they still have the odd accident. Especially if over-excited, tired, hungry, upset etc etc. Pull-ups aren't so bad but try not to revert to a nappy as I found this was just like taking 1 step forward; 10 steps back. I noticed if I ever put a nappy on, for say a journey or shopping trip, once back in knickers, my DD would more often than not wet herself. I never really used a potty - just straight to toilet but maybe if your little ones are going on the potty well, you could 'promote' them to the 'big toilet'. Praise is a great thing and of course, being frustrated and annoyed isn't (even though at times you feel like you want to be!!). However, once they get into potty training, if they do have an accident, it is ok to tell them in a calm way that it isn't nice to go to the toilet in their knickers/pants/clothes and that they should always let you (or someone) know so that they can go on the potty/big toilet etc. A great incentive is a sticker/magnet chart. I used this and it worked a treat. DD is now dry in the day and am thinking about night-time training...which I am dreading!! Wish me luck now!! Sorry for waffling but hope you can take something from this.

[diamondsandtiaras]

thanks so much for the words of encouragement.

we're definitely improving on the wee front although poos are being done in the pants! I'm going to brave a toddler group tomorrow with the potty. Trying not to give in to the temptation to stick her in a pull-up because she just uses them as a nappy and doesn't bother with the potty.

Hope things are going well at your end too fairi

[fairimum]

we are ok, you are right about avoiding the pull up as def set us back, although she did do a wee before and after tumbletots, but doesn't ask if wearing it.

Tried the not putting her on potty this morning, but just reminding her needs to wee on it.... had 3 accidents and 2 on potty.... not so sure was such a great plan but guess should stick to it for a few more hours!

What are you doing about nap time? I have been putting a pull up on which has been dry after nap, but reading advice online says no nappy for nap??

[diamondsandtiaras]

Unfortunately DD no longer has a nap in the day (I am still in mourning!). I think I would be putting her in a pull-up though tbh......I thought it was normal for them to not wake up when they need to go for quite some time yet.

We have completely regressed today and have so far had a poo in the pants and 2 wees on the floor. I know she can do it so I'm trying very hard not to get frustrated with her! Going to give rewards a try I think and see how we get on.

[fairimum]

fingers crossed for a better day tomorrow!! Tried to let her be in more control today but still needs prompting, although if ask if she needs a wee shouts 'NO' and runs into the kitchen (oftn followed by weeing on the floor!) - so have had lots of talk today about how she is sucha big girl using the potty etc, which seems to be enough of a reminder for her to go when she needs to!

[flo136]

We are just past week 2 of toilet training. But the first 9 days were wet trousers and undies every day. Like 6 outfit changes. I looked anf felt awful. My son was so tired and miserable. But we are getting the hang of it. It is getting a lot less, maybe 1 change a day. Every toilet I see, we go. And if I ask him, and he says no, we go anyway. Lots of hugs and kisses for successes. Frequent reminders of where wees and poos go. It does get better!

[diamondsandtiaras]

well things have improved over the weekend thanks to the introduction of a chocolate button reward for poos on the potty rather than in pants!! I think it's also helped having DH at home for the weekend because DD doesn't have to attention seek to the same extent when I'm feeding DD2 etc. we'll see what happens tomorrow when DH is back in work!

[fairimum]

hmmm.... I am not sure how we are doing - she is def holding on longer 1- 1 1/2 hours, where was every 15 mins so suppose that is good, lots of talking about potty to try adn remind her to go and as soon as she sits down she goes, had pants on today and now seems to realise not a nappy.... BUT how on earth can I get her to realise when she needs to go - about 10% of the time she will say wee wee and go and find the potty and sit down, the other 90% she will just wet on the floor

saying that she is waking at 5am (usually sleeps til 7) and at 5am is dry and will go on potty, but then wants to get up, if we ignore her until 7 (she used to go back to sleep) then she is wet, so thinking the need to go is waking her up?

Do I just now leave her to wet herself and not prompt her to go? will this help her learn? Just worried that she is relying on me telling her when to go? help!!!

[diamondsandtiaras]

hmmmm.....have you tried letting her go bare bottomed fairi? We did this for the first few days in case the sensation of being covered up was too much like being in a nappy.

[fairimum]

thanks Diamond, we have been bare bottomed most of last week and just gone into pants, got pj trousers on today too.. just going to see what she does I think, got the hang of not weeing in pants yesterday, so put some easy trousers on in the hope that will feel a bit more uncomfortable if in wet clothes...