Toddler holding in pee - should I stop training?

[Crossleggedmoose]

Hi everyone,

We have been preparing my daughter (26 months) for potty training for about a month now. She has only managed to do one poo on the toilet.

Today we put her knickers on for the whole day. She happily sat on the potty and toilet when we asked her to, but she didn't do anything and had just one accident. We know she wants to go as she is crossing her legs and putting her hand down her front but she seems to just be holding it in.

By the evening, she was getting upset as it was obviously uncomfortable for her to hold on for so long and even though she wanted to sit on the toilet about 10 times, she still didn't go. Should we stop potty training?

Thanks

[robie]

I would stop and put the nappies back on for a few weeks. She's probably not ready. DD1 did that too so I forgot about it for a few months and when I tried again, when she was 31 months, she was trained within 3 days.

Good luck

[Crossleggedmoose]

Thank you, Robie. Difficult to not feel the pressure to train her now as everyone seems to be doing it, but I guess she's just not ready. At least I know she has good bladder control

[whomovedmychocolate]

DD trained herself at 3.6 - do not feel pressured - there is plenty of time. She still refuses to pee more than three times a day though - girls have bladders twice the size of boys though so perhaps they don't need to?

[JennyTW]

Our DD (3.3) was peeing and even pooing in almost every available toilet and potty for nearly three weeks recently .. apart from the nursery one. There, she'd hold on for up to six hours before gravity finally did its thing .

After quite a few accidents, she's now relapsed and isn't keen at all on toilets. So we're going back to pull-ups for a few days at least, because her confidence was getting knocked quite badly.

Don't feel there's ANYTHING wrong with keeping her in nappies for longer. We've had the same experience with family members hinting (for a year now) that "she wants 'no more nappies any more'" and all that lark. You're her mum, you know best.

And while we may expect them to progress in a linear fashion once they've made a start -- no one's told our toddlers!

Just think: how difficult must it be when you've peed and pooped into a nice warm nappy for your entire little life? Getting used to a cold bum hanging over a void can't be easy!!

[Crossleggedmoose]

Thank you everyone. I am happy to delay potty training. My dd was back in nappies today and didn't mention yesterdays dramas. She is relaxed and not holding it in!