help please!! deliberately weeing everywhere except potty

[victoriagirl]

My DT's were doing really well with their potty training. We were having lots of days when they were both dry all day after having only been doing it for about 4 weeks (they are 2 years, 5 months. We went to stay at my parents for the weekend and they were brilliant- no accidents. Have come back and since then it has been a nightmare. One of them is deliberately weeing on the floor all the time. In the last couple of hours, he must have done it about 12 times. Or on toys, in cups, the sofa- basically anywhere except the potty. Sticker chart not working and I don't get cross, just clean it up without any fuss and say 'next time on the potty'. But to be honest, I think he is enjoying the whole ritual of weeing, then saying 'oh dear', then I get the wipes and spray and he watches while I clear it up. (he was helping to clear it up, but weirdly, he seemed to enjoy that so much he was pushing out a little bit more just to get his hands on the wipes!) But not sure what else i can do, as i can't leave it (we've got carpets everywhere)- the house smells of wee as it is!! Any bright ideas???

[Ryma]

May be he is not ready yet?

[LadyBiscuit]

Put him back into nappies. I tried with my DS when he was that sort of age and it wasn't getting better after a few weeks so we went back to nappies and at 3.2 he was completely dry, no accidents within a couple of weeks. Been an absolute breeze and I can't think why I struggled on so long the first time I tried.

[LadyBiscuit]

Sorry - that should say 'at 3.2 I tried again'. Distracted by football

[FrameyMcFrame]

I think he's enjoying the negative attention.
Try to ignore it when he wees in the wrong place but then make a big fuss of him when he does it in the potty.
Don't let him see you cleaning it up when he wees on the floor as this is contributing to the negative attention.

[FabIsGettingFit]

I thought it was you weeing every where but that could be due to the fact I am dying for a wee (why does wine go straight through me?) but can't go as I don't want to miss and England goal.

[victoriagirl]

Thanks for the advice. Hope you managed to make it to the loo FabIs- you would have had a long wait if you were waiting until they scored!!
I think he is ready as he was doing brilliantly and we had a few days of being totally dry as well as many when he would only have one accident. I think it is to do with attention- and when he is bored, as he was awful on friday but all weekend we have had a houseful of people and lots of activity, so have had no accidents!!! We'll see how it goes tomorrow. We have been vigilant with insisting he goes on potty at certain times during the day and the sticker chart has been working better as he was so miffed at seeing his brother getting the stickers. So fingers crossed it is starting to get better...

[belgo]

I'd get cross to be honest.

How on earth is he supposed to know that it's not desired behaviour if you just say 'never mind'?

If they were both dry for the whole weekend at your parent's for the weekend then they are clearly physically capable.

[belgo]

and chuck the sticker charts. A normal natural part of development does not need any more reward then a quick well done.

[victoriagirl]

Thanks belgo. May try change of tack- but had avoided telling him off as it adds to the whole circus around the issue- he loves any kind of reaction- good or bad. Also, thought if you told them off about it they grow up with unresolved toilet issues which their future wives then have to deal with

[louiseas]

Just to let you know that you are not alone. My DD was completely dry for about 6 weeks but now just can't seem to be bothered with the potty or toilet. However she is fine at nursery and when at someone elses house. So annoying when you know they can do it!

Have tried bribery, ignoring it and have also told her off for it but not found the answer yet. good luck

[pigletmania]

Exactly belgo, how are they supposed to know that its not the right thing to do if they are not corrected. I am potty training my dd 3.4 years, started about 3 months ago, its going well so far, I knew that she knows when to go wee/poo and to tell me, and she would hide anywhere and do it. What I did which I think helped was get her, with my help to remove her wet/soiled pants and put clean ones on. I then got a bowl of very mild soapy water and sponge and got her to 'help' me clean it up. I did not say anything that was negative to her except that 'we do wee/poo in the toilet, now we have to clean it up'. I knew that she understood what she was doing, therefore i wanted her to realise that actions have consequences.