DD Regressed after year

[KatiePooh]

Hi, sorry if theres a similar thread ... I sifted through the topics, but may have missed!
DD will be 4 in August (and starting reception in September - I'm not happy about her starting at such a young age, but that's by-the-by I suppose!)
We've recently moved from Scotland back down to Bournemouth to be closer to my parents.
DD was so settled in her last Nursery, I couldn't have asked for a better class, but thought that as she's so outgoing, there'd be no problem with her settling into her new Nusery...I think I was wrong!!
After being at her new nursey for a couple of sessions, she has completely regressed with her toilet training (wee's only). I managed to have her potty trained at 2.9yrs and it took all of a week to do both day & night, with just a handful of minor accidents from then until now.
I've taken her to the doctors to rule out any infection and also spoke to health visitor and she says to rule out anything medical before they'll treat my DD for re-training.
It's definately a Physcological thing (ie change of nursery) and not a physical thing I'm hoping, as when she's at home, we have no accidents atall.
For the last 2 months, she's had 3 or 4 accidents per session at Nursey (just wee's) although on Friday last week she announced when I collected her that she'd also Poo'd, the 1st time she had done this. It later turns out she was copying her friend-"Ruby did a squidgy poo, then I done mine!".
The nursey staff have been brilliant and said they will support her with this and I've checked with DD that no-one gets cross when she has the accidents.
After each time I collect her, we have 'lighthearted' conversations about why she doesn't make it on time and I keep getting the same old answer of 'the toilets are dirty'(they're not by the way!). We've had convo's about how if they are dirty, she's to wipe the seat & flush away, but then she'll tell me she'll just change her clothes! Even the Nusery teachers have mentioned that she'll just take herself over to her bag, get out her new clothes and run into the toilets to put on her clean clothes herself.
I've tried minor rewards (sweeties from shop if no accidents, walk to the park straight after if no accidents etc..) These have no effect, although she'll remember what the reward was meant to be and still expect it!
I've also quizzed her as to if there's anything worrying her or making her scared at nursery and the answers always 'no'.
I'm now at a loss as to which way I go now. Has anyone else experienced similar, or any suggestions? Please Please !

[KatiePooh]

Ah Bless her .. she must have had a rough time of it with the Chicken Pox... I'm still bearing the huge scar at the top of my nose from 30 years ago!! Hopefully she'll just go back to her normal self soon once shes feeling 100%

[girlywhirly]

Never underestimate how a radical change in a small childs' life can completely destroy their toilet training! I think it has to do with control of the environment they now find themselves in, dd knows she can change herself when she's wet, and at the moment she would rather do that than use the nursery toilet, her way of gaining an element of control in a place where she is still not fully secure. I think you'll just have to bear with it a while longer. However, maybe a larger reward to be won after a week of no accidents, for example, might work, but it has to be something that is her dream thing to motivate her enough.

[KatiePooh]

Girlywhirly ... it's been a lot to take in for her I think - she was so close to all her old friends, even I got choked when we left for the last time. Its definately a totally different style of nursery teaching at this one..a Montessourri (I use the word teaching lightly, as it's turned out to be a 'Let them run riot in the back garden' kind of theme for the day) whereas the old one was more of a structured classroom style, get them into minor projects and give them a challenge, aswell as a really fun time! Plus she had to wear the cutest of uniforms, with a bright yellow jumper along with all her old friends which maybe made her feel a real part of the group??? I'm hoping she's just getting too carried away with running about with her new pals. The new motivation is now on her getting into 'Big School' and Ive been mentioning that she has to practise keeping dry so as she can go in the summer, she seems excited about this as she can't wait to get her red jumper!!
Picked her up today and she'd had another 3 accidents (no poos tho -yey)

Thesecondcoming ... Half Term after tomorrow, so will try not to mention anything throughout ... maybe the break may help and get her to re-focus??? Hope the s and Pi** dry up for you soon, what a place to get the damned pox, I'm almost wincing just thinking about it, the poor mite

[ProfessorLaytonIsMyLoveSlave]

It's what often happens when they have unsettling change. DS was similar when DD arrived -- he was besotted with her but his potty training seriously regressed for a month or two.

You may well find that the week off helps her to regroup and refocus [fingers crossed emoticon]