I am at my wits end with potty training and just don't know where to go from here. We started potty training DD (3.4) in November (3rd attempt) and she has been in pants since then. Despite her being dry and clean for long periods at a time in the beginning she has been steadily having more and more accidents since March. In the last 3 months she has had multiple daily accidents which I have just been treating lightly and changing her with not much fuss.
I am 99% sure that it is all behavioural as she is capable of being dry for the whole night (insisted in being in pants 4 night time 2) and when promised with a trip out to a theme park that she loves she managed to completely dry for a week and a half! That was until her little brothers first birthday when the floodgates opened again.
This is an example of her behaviour. Yesterday morning we all went swimming and had a really nice time at the pool. When we got home from the pool the cat had killed a bird in the kitchen and while we were trying to clean up the feathers we heard DD singing that Lofty (who she was playing with at the time) needed a wee-wee. I went in to discover that she had wet herself and was driving lofty through the puddle. I calmly told her to go and sort herself out and asked her to clean up the mess. After much screaming and messing about later (with DH and I ignoring the performance)she was changed. After dinner we needed to go out and she was lying on the sofa when I noticed that she was wet again, so I calmly told her to go and change and to hurry up about it as we needed to go out. There then ensued even more screaming in the toilet and even more performances about getting dressed (putting 2 socks on one foot, insisting she wants a skirt on and the bag of clothes only contains trousers etc etc etc)which resulted in DH threatening to go out without her if she was not ready in 5 minutes and amazingly she was then able to do it! When we got to the shops she had fallen asleep in the car and an hour later she woke up and mumbled something about a wee-wee so DH asked her if she needed to go which was met by not answering and more mumbling so we dropped it and went home. As soon as she got home she laid down on the sofa and after about 5 minutes she started whining for mummy (we were putting the shopping away) at which point I went in to find that she had had a full wee on our brand new sofas. At this point DH and I did shout a her as we are soooooo fed up of her wetting herself and the mountains of washing that she is creating and we gave her no choice but to go back into pull-ups which she is also in today.
Sorry this is so long but as you can see we just don't know where to go from here. We have been ignoring this and acting calmly for months. We don't nag her to go to the toilet or give her any attention for the accidents. She is given a treat for every toilet visit and a prize for every 8 lego men she gets to the fire station and she has been promised a trip to Thomas Land if she is clean n dry for a week, so all of the incentives are there she is just not bothered! It seems the more we ignore the more extreme her behaviour is becoming just to get the attention and it's not that she doesn't get the attention the rest of the time. So my question is where do we go from here, do we keep her in pull-ups for a set period and then try again or do we insist that she is dry in pull-ups for a certain amount of time or do we continue to grit our teeth and put her back in pants (which is what she wants).
Thanks in advance for any advice and I feel better for having a rant here and thanks for getting this far.
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sleepdeprivedby2 · 10/05/2010 09:59
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