In desperate need of some advice!
DS1 is 4.2 and we started potty training in May last year. There was some resistance initially but we overcame it with Fruit Pastilles.
Since then, we've gone backwards and forwards on the wee front - he'll be dry for weeks and months at a time then suddenly regress for no apparent reason. Poos have been trickier but by the beginning of this year we thought we'd cracked it as he was clean for months.
DS starts school in September and right now he's barely getting anything in the toilet - the best we can hope for a lot of the time is a semi-accident and the rest in the toilet. I don't think this is related to school as this regression pre-dates any discussion about school and he's excited and looking forward to it.
In the past, I've done the whole endless-positivity-and-star-charts-and-no-negative-comment and it simply doesn't work - there are no consequences so nothing changes. We've found the best combination is sweet/small rewards and/or a star chart combined with taking a favoured toy away for a day or two when things get really bad - a carrot AND stick approach.
Right now NOTHING is working and it's getting worse. I've just tried a week and a half of only rewards and no negative consequences (because I know you're not meant to pile the pressure on or be negative) and things have got significantly worse. This evening I've lost it, thrown all his pants out, put his star chart in the bin, sent the star chart reward (some highly desired Lego) back and said tomorrow he's wearing nappies and if he can't do his wees and poos in the toilet then he can't go to school.
I know this is an awful thing to do and makes me sound like a terrible Mum but I simply don't know what else to do. I don't think there is a medical problem as he was dry and clean for several months before this.
Please, Mumsnetters, any advice welcome!
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RumbleMum · 24/07/2014 19:41
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