DD is 3.4 years and has been scared of public toilets (which can be anywhere - cafe, shopping centre, park, toddler group, museum etc) for a long time. Not sure why or when it started really, although I do remember her getting very distressed when I took her into a cubicle with me when she was about 18 months old and again when I had a to do a very rushed nappy change in train station toilets when she was about two.
It has got to the point when she won't even go through the doors into the washbasins/dryers bit of the toilets with me, let alone into a cubicle when I need to go. Luckily when we go out, we're often with other people so if I need to go I leave DD with them, rather than have her shake with fear and get very distressed if I try to take her with me.
We've been back-and-forth with potty training for about 6 months (sits on potty or toilet, but hasn't done anything yet; sometimes wears knickers indoors and has had a number of accidents). She's certainly physically ready as she can hold her wee for hours and is often dry overnight, but the genuine fear she has of toilets when we're out is really holding me back really going for it.
She just won't go into a toilet when we're out (I have tried...) and I'm worried that she'd rather wet herself rather than use a toilet when we're out. I do have a pottette, but she is a very tall 3 year old, so that's not really an answer as a young toddler might look cute using a potty in a discreet corner, but not a child who looks about 4.
Just don't know how to tackle it really. My DH says we should just concentrate on getting her toilet trained at home and going when she's out will fall into place, but I'm not so sure.
Thanks for reading this rambling post. Any ideas gratefully received! Going to bed shortly, but will check in tomorrow morning.
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RosemaryWaterlow · 23/06/2014 22:33
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