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November 2012 - the birthplosion (thanks Peaky)

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StuntNun Tue 13-Nov-12 09:56:55
blonderthanred Thu 15-Nov-12 11:00:35

Ok I have a dilemma!

The morning after the birth, I came up with what I thought was an AMAZING name for L. It wasn't a name we'd considered and is quite outlandish (think Classical Roman). DH just thought I'd gone loopy on hormones and morphine, plus we had already decided the name beforehand and told our families when he was born.

Since then it's almost become a joke that I always say, are you sure you don't want to call him xxx? And DH says, quite sure thank you.

So today we are going to register him. And this morning I say, are you sure .... Etc. and DH says, well you've mentioned it every day since the birth, if you want we can have it as a second middle name.

I was somewhat surprised.

So now I'm thinking, do I really want to do this? What do people think? I have till 2pm to decide!

Reasons against:
L might hate it and resent me every time he has to fill in a form.
He might get teased at school.
It could be seen as a bit pretentious/bombastic.
I like the name and middle we had chosen as a whole name and the other one will change the rhythm and initials.
Also I've never seen the need for 2 middle names.
Everyone will think we are crazy.
I might still be a bit hormonal.

Reasons for:
It's a GREAT name!

Evilwater Thu 15-Nov-12 11:03:32

Sorry to hear about the babies with colic. Have you ladies tried the different ways to burp?
1, over the shoulder,
2, sat upright on knee patting and moving you hand in a clockwise direction on the back.
3, baby sat on your knee place your hands to support his head, and move his whole top half in a circular motion
4, place baby on there front on your knees and raises their bum, also massage the lower back

I also use infacol, and find that helps a lot but only for the top end. A friend recommended powered cucumber, Not tired that yet.

horseylady Thu 15-Nov-12 11:43:47

He burps, he's full of mucus. Off to the pharmacist see what they suggest. If not will go to the drs. Sophia he wriggles out the swaddle. Or cries.

Blonder you like the name. I'm sure e will hate constantly spelling His name. He's got two other names to choose from.

DonnaDoon Thu 15-Nov-12 12:03:20

Blonder It is such a dilema choosing and sticking to a name...with ds2 I dragged it out until 6 weeks ...Go with your instinct and bite the bullet...whatever name you choose in a years time you couldnt possibly imagine him being called anything else I promise.

DonnaDoon Thu 15-Nov-12 12:08:53

Sorry just read your post again Blonder I see its about the second middle name...sorry lack of sleep...I would write his full name out on paper and stare at it until you get used to it...Im sure having two middle names is no more faff than having one...I havnt got a middle name and was the only one amongst my friends who didnt and I always felt that my parents couldnt be arsed to choose one...lol

Catbag Thu 15-Nov-12 12:11:36

I have 2 middle names- if you're going to have one, you might as well have two! The twins have two middle names too- River has my grandmother's name and the name that dh wanted as a first, but I vetoed (Elizabeth Ash). Saul has dh's brother's name and my best friend's name (Carlin James). People at school won't know middle names unless your child tells them. I'd do it grin

Catbag Thu 15-Nov-12 12:14:40

And y'know, we gave our daughter the first namer River. The 'normal, sensible' names are hiding in the middle where they won't be seen!

Catbag Thu 15-Nov-12 12:16:45

first NAME* , for heaven's sake!

Elizadoesdolittle Thu 15-Nov-12 12:28:12

Congratulations kirrin.

nervous from what I recall 4 week is a big growth spurt time.

Am posting whilst feeding and it has taken me a ridiculously long time to type this!

About to take E for her first car ride. It's funny how we mummy's get excited about things like that whilst the baby has no idea what is going on!

ValiumQueen Thu 15-Nov-12 12:54:41

blonder you have a bit longer to decide yes? Might be best to wait a bit and think on it. DH registered J two weeks ago as I think he was concerned I would change my mind. I think you should tell us the name though, so we can give an informed opinion.

School run was great, and I then walked to the village. Felt fab as not been able to do that since 24 weeks when I broke my leg. The PnT is crap for shopping. I could not reach the basket and no hooks to put shopping on so ended up carrying two bags and pushing pram one handed. Felt silly, plus at the gate DD1 said she liked my socks. I still had bed socks on, with crocs as cannot wear proper shoes due to leg pain. At least the socks were matching blush

DS loving his Baby Bjorn bouncer. Best buy ever.

GTbaby Thu 15-Nov-12 13:24:06

Petit LO moved up to 120 last week n I've given 150 a couple of times as he does 3 hour feeds ATM n I want him to move to 4 hours.

evil I've tried those apart from number three. Will give that a go when he wakes.
He sleeps so much better when up right rather then flat. Not good at all.

I think he is having more prob with farts rather then burps. Gave him some fennel water yesterday. Will carry that on today.

Again so grateful for my mum today. She took LO at 8. So I slept till 11. Mum made fun of me "forgetting about my son" but I said I was going to take full advantage till Sunday lol

YellowWellies Thu 15-Nov-12 13:34:19

We haz greeny-orange poos! Feeding from one boob only at a feed has done the trick! Ta ladies grin.

blonder go for it LO doesn't have to use the name if they don't like it - hell Jonas got Ernest as a middle name after the fab doc who hoiked him out!

ValiumQueen Thu 15-Nov-12 13:37:36

My MIL and SIL are visiting for the weekend. DH said he told me. I said he had mentioned third week of November, but figured I would have had a bit more sodding notice. MIL is ill, as she often is, with back pain. Only staying 2 nights, so better than 2 weeks like last time. DH is tired as he had a disturbed night. Maybe if he moved back to his mums he would sleep better. Perhaps I should suggest it. He is a very clever man, but clearly cannot see what is right in front of his face. Grr!

NervousAt20 Thu 15-Nov-12 13:39:48

Thanks petite glad your LOs check up went well

blonder I have 2 middle names and its never bothered me, I'd go with it

Thanks eliza. I completely agree, we get excited over all the little things and our babies are just oblivious grin

We had a bad night last night with cluster feeding and LO just wouldn't settle so I'm praying tonight's better. Getting LO weighed today, I always get so anxious

Hope everyone's having a good day

horseylady Thu 15-Nov-12 13:43:15

Vq my dh is the same wrt tiredness. Some people can not cope with lack of sleep.

We have nasal drops, going to try them but he still sounds rattley so will see how he goes overnight and then go see the dr tomorrow. He's not running a temperature but is grizzly. Apparently putting a towel under the head of the mattress will help prop him up a bit? Worth a try I guess?

ValiumQueen Thu 15-Nov-12 13:47:10

Yay YW. Great news on the poo front!

ValiumQueen Thu 15-Nov-12 13:50:00

horsey there is a reason why women have the babies grin propping up mattress is a good plan, as are the nose drops. It is not nice administering them as you feel like you are drowning them, but it does help.

horseylady Thu 15-Nov-12 14:44:36

God nose drops are hard!!!! Defo got one not sure about the other!! Am taking the pram upstairs tonight to see if that's any better for him over the Moses basket. And trying the towels.

Just had projectile vomiting only a tiny bit but my god how far can it travel!! First time it's happened lol!!

Dh has just offered to do Friday and Saturday nights for me. So I can get a 'good nights sleep'. I said I'll see how I feel but currently I'm ok.

horseylady Thu 15-Nov-12 14:46:25

Oh yw brill news about the poo!!

I'm amazed how much I care about poo!!! Babies are like horses lol!! Always checking poo!! Amount, colour and consistency!!

ValiumQueen Thu 15-Nov-12 14:53:04

horsey take up the offer of DH doing the nights even if you feel you are coping. It will be good for them both and also you. DH can bond with his boy, and appreciate how hard it is to cope on his own. DS will benefit from time with his dad too plus you will rest a bit hopefully. I think it is good for babies to spend a bit of time away from mummy as it makes it easier to transition to childcare and school. If not, can I borrow your hubby?

YellowWellies Thu 15-Nov-12 14:56:14

horsey bite his hand off!!!!! ooooooooh the thought of unbroken sleep envy

<looks at shitty nappies that both DDs have just provided me with>

Horse poo is much easier to deal with. Smells better too.

Did I see you write in the old thread you were going to try riding again this weekend horseylady? Good luck, you must be missing it so much. I gave up due to major horse inflicted back troubles about three or four years ago and I still miss it so much it actually hurts sometimes.

DH is being brilliant about sharing the night shifts. He's much better at it than me I am rubbish when woken up.

Jeez what a night! I ended up in tears after being completely unable to latch J on the breast, he was screaming his head off and desperately rooting at everything.
DS2 woke up with growing pains and DS1 was awake from the noise.
DP didn't dare drive the 2 hrs to work at 5am this morning because he was exhausted.
The midwife came out this morning though and weighed J to reassure me he was doing fine and I wasn't failing as much as I thought, he's gone from 7lb 2 at birth to 7lb 5 now at 10 days! grin

We took breastfeeding back to basics, she said I had a sloppy third time
Mum latch, so I was allowing him to control the feed and suck on the end of the nipple and it was only getting him the watery milk which was resulting on a constantly hungry baby, so now I think we're ok after going back to a classic cradle hold an ld
Using the tummy to mummy and nipple
to nose rules, we've had two really good feeds which have zonked him out for hours in between so I'm a lot
Happier today. smile

blonderthanred Thu 15-Nov-12 15:22:43

Thank you for the positive response ladies, we have gone for it! He is now registered and has met DH's workmates (he works in the same building as the registrar) who made a big fuss of him.

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