Imposter syndrome - am I really a parent of a teenage daughter?

[Swanhildapirouetting]

I was driving dd to school this morning and thinking how odd is it is that I am impersonating a mother who drives her daughter to school, gives advice, helps and supports etc etc..
I don't feel as if I am a grownup at all, but that I need to pretend to be one for her sake.
Is there a point at which Christians start feeling they are responsible grownups?
I am a catechist too...this morning I saw a mother and child who I recently had taught First Holy Communion Class to (been taking class for five years) My garden was full of cardboard boxes and I thought I had better hide in case she notices (the mum I mean) that I'm not really the respectable catechist she thinks I am..

Any thoughts would be welcome I know that Imposter syndrome is a common problem but I just wondered whether anyone had felt it in relation to being a parent.

[deepbluetr]

Interesting topic- I have teenagers too.

I am not a christian though and I see your question is specifically directed at christians so I will refrain from commenting further.

[thegreenheartofmanyroundabouts]

I'm the mother of teenagers and young adults and although technically I'm a responsible grown up I still feel about 22 inside. I also have the problem of projection - people expecting that because of my job (clergy) I am super holy - which I'm not. I get people apologising when they swear in front of me which is daft because I can probably out swear them if provoked.

Other people's expectations are odd sometimes.

[Swanhildapirouetting]

deepbluetr -definitely NOT directed at Christians...I just put it in the spirituality topic because I wasn't quite sure what I was asking... I just mentioned the Christian bit because it occurred to me that it might be part of deferring to someone more important (God) that I find it difficult to be deferred to myself!

[Swanhildapirouetting]

green that is interesting that you think of yourself as 22 at least rather than 14...

When I'm with my sons I think of myself being a grownup though. They are 12 and 14. Dd is 12. It is all very odd.

It's a bit like God gives you this task and you do what he wants, but you are not quite sure if you ever going to be equal to it. Maybe that is what I meant by posting in Spirituality rather than Mental Health issues!