Hi.
I was raised in a catholic country and albeit my people in family are not church goers, I was raised with Christian beliefs and since very little was very spiritual. From teens to adulthood I have been exploring many kinds of spiritual paths trying to figure out which one works best for me.
Finally I settled with one CofE and I really like it and enjoy going there every sunday. DD always clicked instantly which makes everything so easy.
Problem is: I am awfully shy and I think I have low self esteem and problems with confidence (which I am trying to work on - baby steps)...anyway, I really struggle to be a "member" of the church in the sense of taking a more active role or even just chatting and having a cue of tea at the end. I am terrified at people coming to talk to me and feel very uncomfortable when it goes beyond "help and how are you".
At the beginning was fine, as I needed to introduce myself and get to know people but now, I feel really silly when I have to talk to someone. It seems that I have nothing worthwhile to say and I fear I will always come up talking rubbish...I am also very self conscious of my accent and non native English which makes things worse.
They are a bunch of lovely people and I know they are not judging me but I feel so rude and ill mannered not making an effort to be more "out there", I really hope they understand I am very introspective and shy...
Sometimes after the service I just want to be on my seat reflecting and waiting for my child to come from her group, but someone always come and talk to me perhaps thinking I am lonely when everything I wanted to be is invisible.
I tried to come to one of the growth groups and it was helping but now I don't have the time anymore ;(
There will be a big gathering in a location away for two days and it sounds so awesome, I would love to go but I just don't want to be there cringing with myself and pretending to be I am something I am not...
Aaaargh!
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Not coping well in the Church.
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Etah · 22/06/2014 13:46
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