95% of my dreams is about me being terrified!!!!!

[biglips]

as im running away from my ex-boyfriend. i last saw him in 1999 and im always having dreams about him trying to come and get me! and i was terrified that he founded me

Me and ex had a stormy relationship and my flat ended up getting nearly smashed up cos of his jealousy, possiveness (sp), and i was terrfied

Twice my ex came across nice and i was relaxed and once my Dp popped up in my dreams and scared my ex off and i didnt have any dreams about my ex for a long time but he is returning back

How do i stop dreaming about him as its depressing me !!!

[MaryBS]

Its a difficult one. I can only tell you what helped me with recurring dreams.

Firstly though, have you ever received, or considered receiving counselling over what happened? I found counselling really helped when my marriage to an extremely controlling man ended (I put up with a lot of mental abuse from him, although it wasn't physical abuse, he totally destroyed my self-esteem). Maybe you have unresolved issues that need straightening out in your mind.

Secondly, I stopped getting recurring dreams when I took control of the dreams. For example, if you dream of getting attacked, when you wake, try to think of a 'happy' ending to the dream. Such as the police turning up, the attacker being arrested, and being locked up for a very long time. I found it calming and helped me to get back to sleep. Eventually I could actually go back and DREAM the ending I'd come up with - from that point onwards, the dreams had no fear, and went away.

HTH {hug}

[biglips]

im waiting on for the couselling atm to help me to "forgive" my ex as i had alot of mental abuse not physical too. My dreams is me always running away from him and i could feel i was having a panic attack as he found me, he never attack me in the dreams. Im trying to cntrol the dream as i did it once when my dp popped up and scared him away and i didnt dream about him for a year or so till now! ggrrr!!!

[MaryBS]

I never found the counselling helped me to forgive my ex-, it ran too deep for that. It did help with self-confidence. I have finally forgiven him though, and found peace in myself as well.
Have you seen the film "Sleeping with the enemy" with Julia Roberts? I strangely found comfort in that film, it helped me to release some of my anger. Before we split up (he left me for another woman), I rented that from the video shop, and we watched it. He never liked the film - I wonder why

Keep trying with the dream controlling, it does work.

[biglips]

thanks marybs ..i might have a go watching the movie too

[Mayadeine]

Interpreting Dreams excerpt on this page might trigger some thoughts for you.

I agree with the self-confidence aspect of emotion and mental status that Mary mentioned. The more you work on empowering your dreams the less this dream will exist in your day and night time reality.

Try before you sleep to visualise the encounter with your ex in a position of strength and power generating from you - not as violence but as depth and peace of mind within yourself. Even if that is not something you feel or believe give it a go. Be mindful of your breath and how you feel as you visualise. Go to any areas of your mind or body that has any pressure or sensation - then give that area good energy (like cuddling a baby ) You can send him away with good positive visualisation.

[biglips]

ooh thanks May - ill have alook into that