Recurring dream of an ex?!?

(6 Posts)
CosmicG Mon 26-Aug-13 11:07:28

I keep dreaming about someone i had a very brief fling with about 7 yrs ago. I dnt speak to the guy anymore and have not for about 5 yrs or longer. I have been having the dreams for a long time now and they leave me feeling quite confused. If anyone here is good with dream interpretations would be interesting to know what you think? My feelings towards him in the dream seem quite neutral and in waking life i don't think about him much, if at all, apart from when i've dreamt about him. I am single but often think about being happy with someone someday if or when it happens but am perfectly content being alone. The relationship we had was brief and lustful and was dissaproved by others as he was actually in a relationship. I was very naive and vulnerable as had come out of a long term relationship at the time, although we ended up back together soon as the affair ended. I'm just a bit baffled as to why i keep having dreams about this guy. The dreams started around 10 months ago, around the time i left my husband.

Dirtypaws Mon 26-Aug-13 20:40:17

Oh I love a good dream! A couple of striking things. You mention that the dreams started around 10 months ago, when you left your husband. You also mention that the affair with the ex was lustful. In addition you mention you were vulnerable after having just come out of a relationship.

Could be that you are in need of some sex! Plain and simple. The fact that the relationship was brief - casual? Maybe you need a brief casual fling. I don't know what was wrong in your marriage but I should imagine you feel a sense of relief? So maybe you're subconsciously thinking about non committal stuff

It could also be a back to front way of telling yourself to be careful as you are vulnerable again having left your husband.

Dirtypaws Mon 26-Aug-13 20:46:29

Oh btw not advocating a brief casual fling. Our subconscious is a powerful thing and can desire some thing that we will not allow ourselves due to societal constraints etc.

There are several ways in which you can analyse your dreams and they're very enlightening sometimes.

springytoffy Mon 26-Aug-13 22:15:21

It may be unfinished business with this guy. Did your affair end abruptly?

CosmicG Tue 27-Aug-13 10:24:15

Dirtypaws I was definately relieved about the marriage ending. i dont think about sex much and i dont miss it. I don't feel interested in anything casual either. The affair was very brief but very passionate. It was with a work colleague and I was bullied by other colleagues when they found out about it. springytoffy yeah, affair did end quite abruptly and I sometimes think there may be things left unsaid or something. I'm not sure. I just don't want to keep having dreams about him. It was so long ago.

springytoffy Wed 28-Aug-13 13:00:16

imo our psyche strives for health (which is rather good of it, eh wink ). It's coming up for a reason - time to revisit it imo, sort it out. something's got stuck and needs to be resolved. What did he/the affair represent to you?

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