I posted before about ds (2.11) asking a lot about death after our neighbour died. We have tried to be honest and tell him yes, Mummy and Daddy will die one day, and so will he, it is part of nature etc. etc. Also stumbled across a fab book about the death of a pet, "Goodbye Mousie" which is very good on the emotions and rituals surrounding a death.
However in 'Goodbye Mousie' it shows them burying the mouse, which had not come up before. Today ds said "I hope they didn't put XX (neighbour) into the ground." I explained that we do this with bodies when the person no longer needs them. Later on he said "When I'm older and I die I'll be happy because I'll be with you again." I asked him where he thought we would be, and he said "In the ground."
This bothers me because 1) I have obviously not explained very well about being buried, and don't want him to worry about going under the ground, and
2) I am not sure if I actually believe we will be together again, and don't want to feed him a story (tempting though it is) about us living happily ever after in heaven. I used to believe in reincarnation or a sort of life force that lasts after death, but now am concluding we do probably just die and that's it.
I didn't really need to have this soul-searching about my beliefs at the moment right now to be honest, but children do have a habit of making you actually think about awkward things, don't they?
Any thoughts / suggestions? I am out of my depth here.
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FrannyandZooey · 16/03/2006 20:46
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