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Grrrr - general rant about not RSVP-ing

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kaansmum · 03/07/2006 22:52

I'm beginning to think that maybe I'm a little odd. Is it just me that responds to party invitations immediately? If DS receives an invitation, I check out the calander and respond either yes or no within a day or two of receiving it. I sent our invitations for DS's party on 27 June with a deadline of 8 July for the party on 15 July. Out of 22 sent I have still only received 7 back and there are only 4 days to go until the 8th.

It annoys me so much to think that I am going to have to approach these mothers in the playground to ask them personally. It's such a cringe. I've been moaning to my mother about it and she has suggested that she does it for me if it bothers me so much - can you imagine the humiliation of that!

I know that not all mothers empty book bags or trays regularly but I gave them until today thinking that most would have done it over the weekend but still nothing. It's just bad manners.

It's stressful enough organising a wretched party without this - I swear I'll never have another again. Mind you, I said that after the last one

I'm hell to live with at the moment due to the stress of these RSVPs. DH is not much help either, all he can say is, "it'll be OK" or "god knows what you'd be like if you had something really serious to worry about".

Is it just a "mum thing" that men can't understand?

It sounds like an awful thing to say but roll on 16 July when it's all over

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beckybrastraps · 03/07/2006 22:53

There are 4 days to go! Relax!!

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hulababy · 03/07/2006 22:56

Still a few days before the 8th.

I do RSVP as soon as I can though and I found the non-RSVP thing really stressful when organising DD's birthday party.

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saadia · 03/07/2006 22:58

I would only start stressing after the 8th.

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melrose · 03/07/2006 22:58

Only rude if after your requested RSVP date which is 4 days away!!

Personally I do as you, check straight away, almost always write reply straight away ..........and despite the best of intentions generally find said imaculately written and addressed reply on hall table several days/ weeeks later.

Chase up after RAVP fate but before that chill out a bit, this is meant to be fun!!

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DevilsAdvocado · 03/07/2006 22:58

Goodness me...if you are that stressed about a kids party, what will you not be like at their wedding invites? Chill out fgs!

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chipkid · 03/07/2006 22:59

some people are just plain rude. Some people think they only have to rsvp if they are going to accept.
You can always make dh stand at the door and refuse entry to anybody who has failed to let you know they are coming and then just turn up!

ps my ds's party is on 15th I said rsvp by 8th and lots still outstanding!

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melrose · 03/07/2006 23:00

RAVP fate?? RSVP later, sorry!

My mother still stresses about the fact that 2 single male friends never send RSVPs to our wedding 4 years ago. If I ever refer to one of them she will say "Do I know him, oh yes the one who did not reply"!!!

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beckybrastraps · 03/07/2006 23:01

Why say the 8th if you mean before then?

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melrose · 03/07/2006 23:02

Did you put a mobile number or e-mail address on the invite? far better way to get someone to reply to these things IMO as a text or e-mail can be done pretty instantly without the need of postage!

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handlemecarefully · 03/07/2006 23:04

Ummm - well I think it is better form to reply fairly quickly

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kaansmum · 04/07/2006 11:26

Thanks for your comments - they have helped me to put this thing into perspective. I know I'm stressing a little too much but I feel a lot better now and I did have one more response in DS's tray this morning!

Hopefully it's a case of slowly but surely - 3 days to go!

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LucyJu · 04/07/2006 11:39

I know what you mean about RSVPs. I, too, am stressing out about a forthcoming birthday party (on 14th July).
FWIW, past experience has shown me that those who don't reply usually don't turn up either. Maybe some people assume you only reply if you are going to go?

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Freddiecat · 05/07/2006 23:00

I forgot to RSVP to one of DS's party invites the other day. Child is not in DS's class, had never heard of him in fact (they'd invited everyone). But still no excuse.

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