DD invited to Twins Party - presents?

[3LittleMonkeys]

Dd has been invited to twins birthday party. I don't want to offend the mother or twins but I am not sure of the present issue. Do you buy a present for each/or one that both can play with. Neither would be a problem but having not known twins before I want to make sureI get this right and not offend anyone. Can any mumnetters with twins help me?

[SoupDragon]

Is she friends with both? If so, I'd go for a present each (similar gifts but not identical) but if she's only friends with one, I'd buy just one.

[magnolia1]

My twins always ask seperate friends so only one present each. Is the invite from 1 or both twins?
I don't like stuff to share from family but see no problem in present to share from friends

[WigWamBam]

Agree with SoupDragon ... if she is friends with both, or the invitation came from both, then a present for each. If she is only friends with one, or the invitation only came from one, then a present for her friend and just a card for the twin.

[TinyGang]

If the invitation is from them both, then yes a card and gift each.

It's hard to know how to play it, I know. When my dt's go to a party they each take a present and a card. Atm all their friends are joint ones, so they each have a gift at their party from the friend.

But they are starting school in Sept in different classes - I just know it'll get complicated when they make separate friends, but I'll try and make it clear for the guest's mums to avoid confusion.

[cupcakes]

my ds is best friends with twins. He always gives them two presents on theri birthday. They give him one present on his.
It does generally tend to be of a higher value equivalent to two though.

[stitch]

separate presents, or one present of higher monetary value, if the children are older.
its a case of something to unwrap each. and if you are invitiing the twins, then they should bring one each, as the invite is for two kids, not one.

[3LittleMonkeys]

Thank you all for your replies, the invite came from both of the twins, so I will buy a present for each one .

[cupcakes]

Now you get the real challenge of finding two things of the same value which are kind of the same but different...

[Gillian76]

We have twins in our family too. They are 7. Their mother (SiL) is a bit anal about them being the same and dresses them alike, etc. We are instructed to buy identical gifts and they have 2 of each toy in their house.

My DD had a party and invited twins from her nursery. They each brought a present and SiL thought this was a bit OTT. The other twins' mother said when I thanked her for both gifts that they always bring a present each as when other children come to their parties, they give the twins a present each. I never thought of it like that.

When I asked SiL about this she said when her twins go to a party they give one gift from both of them. But when it's their party, she would be annoyed at one gift for her twins to share. I thought that was a bit odd, tbh.

Anyway, I hope that makes sense! Just my experience :)

[cupcakes]

I think it is a bit cheeky to give one present and expect two back. When they go to parties the host is providing two sets of food/prizes/going home gifts so it doesn't really balance out.

[Gillian76]

Yes cupcakes, that's what I found odd...

[milge]

I have twins - they generally get one present each at their birthday party,from the kids they invite and if they both are invited to a party, they each take a present for the birthday boy/girl. They are two individuals, not one commodity, so find the idea of joint presents(giving or receiving) to be a bit tight.

[jenkel]

I would class each child as an individual, so would buy two presents, probably would ask the mother though if she would prefer one more expensive present to share or if 2 indiviudals ones will be OK.

[MadamePlatypus]

Speaking as a twin myself, buy each twin their own present!!!!!!!