...the "I don't give a feck that you've just said No I 'm doing it anyway" kind of defiance.
If DS (nearly 5) starts doing something I don't want him to do I say "No" or "stop" - explain why and the little darling continues doing it anyway.
I then physically stop him after which it becomes a game - "how far can I push Mum"?
Inevitably I get really stressed out and then start shouting (which I hate doing) - eventually after a huge battle he starts crying - I then start feeling guilty (usually because I shouted) and then I feel like crying as well.
He's nearly 5 and all I can see is that he's getting bigger and stronger all the time and that this will just get worse. Just feel I am doing it all wrong somewhere.
Is it too strong to say that I hate him sometimes? Please don't misunderstand me - I love him to bits but I just hate the behaviour and am seemingly crap at sorting it out.
At present he is jumping off the built in work surface in the dining room which I have pulled him off about 15 times this morning and he has just gone straight back. Have now reached the point of "go on then - fall off and hurt yourself - I give up"(wrong I know).
So am now ignoring him completely... which of course will inevitably make the behaviour worse as he will attention seek.
Just feeling hopeless and helpless.
Thank goodness he goes back to school tomorrow because tbh I am fed up with him
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How do you deal with direct disobedience?
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Theclosetpagansbesom · 28/10/2007 08:31
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