My dc's used to go and see their father when I moved away from him, my youngest was 8months when we split.
I have since stopped contact with their father as he was totally irresponsible, but his mother still had contact. They used to go to hers once a fortnight, which has progressively got less and less.
We are now at the point where she hasnt seen them or even contacted me (I found out that last time they went they were left in care of their father and sent her a text saying I wasnt happy and from now on he must not be in charge of them EVER) in 6 weeks.
I was talking about this to DP and said I felt uncomfortable driving the kids over (my son is nearly 3, DD not an issue really) to their nans house, which is an hour away, then leaving them there, as DS surely finds it strange to be at this house, round people he doesnt really know very well.
Thing is its getting close to christmas now, and I am sure exMIL is going to call/text me in the coming weeks and try to make arrangements about them going over to hers to stay for some time over xmas, but I dont want them to, its all well and good ignoring the fact they exist for over 6 weeks but then they expect to get what they want.
I'm not sure what to suggest, dp has said if I really dont want them to stay then maybe we could go over xmas eve in the morning, drop the kids off and spend some time in their town, doing what I dont know! then pick them back up in the evening and take them home.
It sounds reasonable to me, but I am sure t will kick off if I suggest this, really am not sure what to do.
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Lorayn · 25/10/2007 15:11
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