Bearing in mind ds1 is 11, in Year 7.
We have just fallen out as his friend repeatedly asks him to go to youth club with him on Friday nights, but I don't want him to.
My reasons are: the youth club goes on too late - till 10! He is only 11 fgs and goes to bed at 9.
Dh and I are not keen on said friend. We would not stop our son being friends with him but he is a disruptive influence and ds1 is a follower rather than a leader so we worry about this boy's influence.
The youth club is not a local one which I could vet but one some miles away. Friend's mother is supposed to take them and pick them up. I would prefer that if my son went to any youth club, I at least took him and picked him so I could get a feel for the place. But I can't go driving off for miles at night with 3 younger children all needing their bedtimes.
Ds1 is not lacking in a social life. He goes out or has someone call for him virtually every single day. At the moment, it is not stopping him from doing homework/music practice etc, but it will one day. He spent all yesterday evening with same friend and now has homework to catch up with.
I just hate the idea of youth clubs. I never went to one as a child. My children once attended a playgroup that was held in a youth club building and the notices and posters on the wall were horrid - all about drugs and sex - not what I want for my children.
I guess some of you are going to tell me my son will grow up and immerse himself in whatever culture he fancies, and of course you are right, but in the meantime, are my arguments for keeping him away from this youth club valid?
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What is your take on youth clubs?
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DumbledoresGirl · 12/10/2007 16:01
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