After an initial good start, DS has started acting up in school again. Think of the two or three naughty boys in the class, DS is one of them, so he isn't just a normal boisterous boy, he's in the 90th percentile. His main problems are being too bouncy (and then hurting others - punched one boy in the balls last week, albeit by "accident", not because he was cross), being silly and not concentrating, and not doing as he is told. For example, yesterday he got into trouble for mimicking the teacher. the other day he threw pears at the governors!
He is not cowed by authority (perhaps because at the tender age of 5, he's already spent quite a bit of time outside the head teacher's office). At one level he's very confident but he is also a bit isolated, doesn't have a "best friend" in any way and complains of not being included in the most popular kid's gang. The school get him to "stand out" and he misses play time, golden time etc. We are not lax parents - we try to encourage good behaviour (with stickers and praise) and discourage bad. We probably spend too much time shouting! Punishments range from being sent to his room to having the TV off and not getting his bed-time story. I've pointed out that his behaviour is alienating his friends as they won't play with him. Now DH is talking about not giving him a birthday party, partly because he is worried he will get too excited and cause trouble.
How can we make him behave - I need new parenting strategies desperately! We need to teach him impulse control so that he can put a stop to his own behaviour before it gets out of hand - any ideas? Both DH and I have terrible tempers, and DH admits that he was a delinquent until he was 16 - but I can't wait that long!
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Calling parents of boisterous boys! How can I get DS to behave?
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florenceuk · 09/10/2007 12:09
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