Does anyone else feel that they are just getting through the day?

[Leela31]

I have a 3yr old and an 8 week old. Although I love them both and am very grateful to have them, the truth is, I do not enjoy my days at all. My 3yr old is clingy and playing up no end since her sister arrived and is very tired since she has given up her lunchtime nap.

The 8 week old is a good baby but still up twice at night and as I am doing all the feeds, I am absolutely exhausted all the time. Feel anxious all the time and am getting very little enjoyment from my life.

Anyone else feel/felt like this? When will it get better?

[Tottie32]

i have always hated sundays full stop since i split with ex.....
i find it such a long day and lids want entertianing non stop

[moondog]

Yes,I felt like this when mine wree that age.
Things will change.Hard to believe but they will. Hope all around you are rallying to offer support and help.

[FLIER]

I'm having a day like this today, have been in tears. I have 4yo and 16month old.
Just have to remind myself that its not always as bad as this.

[EscapeFrom]

I have 4 year old and 17 month old, and sometimes I look back at my day and all I have done is moan, shout, referee. But, this is the important bit, we have good times too.

Leela, you shouldn't be feeling anxious all the time, and you should be having periods when you are happy and contented. If it's getting worse, and it's all looking a bit forlorn, you need to see your doctor because it might be PND.

[FluffyMummy123]

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[ruddynorah]

do you have any friends/family who can take your 3 year old now and again to give you a bit of a break or a nap? what about toddler groups? will your 3 year old be sufficiently distracted by what's going on there so you can have a sit down and a coffee? or will she be going to pre school soon?

[EscapeFrom]

The start is, as icod says, hard.

hard, hard, hard.

It's so much easier when baby is less fragile and more interactive. Does your three year old go to preschool? Couold you get her to toddler groups? Would give you a break and her some more age appropriate time - ds1 lived for preschool when ds2 was born, as it was all about him!

[Leela31]

Yes, toddler is at nursery some days and that does help. Still feel anxious all day with baby. I remember I felt like this with DD1 but I am finding it much harder with two. I crave time for myself and when I get it, it never feels like enough.

Sometimes I think I might have PND but then I have a good day. Surely you don't have good days if you have PND, do you?

[daisyandbabybootoo]

yes you can have good days and bad days with PND.

Can you talk to your DH about it, does he know how feel? Or talk to your GP or HV.

I feel for you as I'm dealing wityh a 5 year old and a 15 week old and it's only just getting bearable now school is back.

[FluffyMummy123]

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[cruisemum1]

yes! i have felt like this loads of times and I hve an 8year gap between my lo's. Dinner times are the pits. I alwasy always alwasy do the whole childcare thing on my own as dh is never ever ever ever ever in to help. Sometimes I could scream and rant and throw saucepans (have managed to curb the temptation thus far, though there is still time ). It is frigging hard. Worst of it is everyone else seems to breeze through it all......or do they???