The school cliques are starting to get me down.
Last year when my dd started school I only knew a handful of parents from my dd's nursery and the dance club she was at. Everyone seemed really friendly and I made sure I said hello to everyone.
A few months into the school year my dd was coming home covered in bruises and was stressed about going to school and it turned out a certain boy was kicking and punching her everyday and at one point even licked her face while they were lining up.. after hearing various other things from other parents about what this boy was doing to their children too I wrote a letter to the class teacher and telling her to keep an eye on the situation. A few days later the mother of the boy approached me and told me that the class teacher had told her word for word what I had written in the letter and she said she was shocked and sorry. But obviously things have been awkward since even though I've made an effort to stay friendly. The mother of the boy knows quite a few other mums in the school and they have all been very cool to me ever since..
Over the holidays I had some of my dd's friends over to play and one day when she had her best friend over I thought they were very quiet and I went to find out what they were up to.. I found them coming out of a room with a guilty look and asked them what they had been up to and found out they had been showing each other their private bits, I didn't freak out or make them feel bad I just said "why did you do that"? And my dd said "it was her idea" pointing at her best friend and her best friend said "well she said yes"!!
I did say I would have to tell her friends mum, which they didn't want me to. I couldn't get hold of her on her mobile as she was at work so I sent her a brief message explaining what I had caught them doing and joked 'apparently it was your daughters suggestion but I'm sure you'll get a different story later'.
My H was dropping my daughters friend off so I knew I wouldn't get a chance to speak to her mum face to face and I didn't want the daughter telling her mum without me saying anything first as it would have looked wrong if I hadn't said anything so I thought the text message was fine.
To cut this already very long story short, the mum hasn't spoke to me since! We had a row on the phone as she thought the text message was rude and that I should have waited till the evening & then told her even though I explained I wanted her to hear it from me not her daughter first. We were really good friends before, I looked after her daughter a lot for no money even though I spent a fortune on them while I had them, giving her dinners and buying ice cream at the park etc. I rarely got a thanks either.
So at the start of term yesterday the 2 mums I have mentioned and a few others were huddled in the corner and ignored me and my daughter when we came in and now I am dreading doing this every morning and afternoon and feeling miserable about taking her to the park after school and having to sit through school assembly's and concerts while I feel I am being talked about, honestly has no one anything better to do?! I obviously don't or I wouldn't be bothered no? I thought I had left this crap behind when I left school. Sorry about it being so long any advice appreciated.
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Cliques in school, very long sorry
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rainbowbrite25 · 05/09/2007 13:47
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