I have 2 dds. One age 6 (almost7) and one age 4. My friend has 2 ds`s of the same ages.
Her boys have seperate rooms and seperate toys. Kind of understandable due to the interests of the differing ages. But because they squabble and or even fight over some more general toys she has decided to put stickers on the bottoms of all her ds2s toys. I mean, they both love to play with trains, they both love playing with playmobil and lego etc (some games are only suitable for the boy that can read or operate the computer - but some are more general and suitable for them both). What she does is if she happens to buy a new train, she will buy 2 identical and put a sticker on the bottom of one so she knows whos is whos. She has a house stacked with loads of toys and she doubles up on all of it because she cant stand the arguements if there was only one green train they would both want it.
I think this is wrong, not only is it darned expensive and takes up alot of space in her relatively small house. But i dont think it is any way encouraging them to share with eachother. And low and behold when we visit them, her boys are very possessive of their toys and arent at all willing to share them with my girls. This i would understand if it was a special item - but they are like it with everything.
My approach is share what toys we have in the house or it will be taken away form you both.
I was astounded this morning when another mother was agreeing with my friend as this is similar to what she does with her dc. Is this what most parents do? I feel its an easy option for a quiet life. Am i the only one who adopts a different approach?
My girls do share very well, we do have the odd squabble but rarely.
Im sorry if this has been covered before, but is fresh in my mind and am interested how others manage this.
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Sharing / sibling rivalry, how do you do this & what do you think of my friends approach
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haychee · 05/09/2007 11:47
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