What would you have done?

[Ceolas]

OK DS is 4 and 2 months. Went to the toilet this afternoon and emerged completely naked. Ni big deal. About 15 mins later he's dressed again apart from socks. Again, no big deal.

However sisters come back from school and are going for a swimming lesson. While they get changed I ask DS to put his socks on. ABout 10 mins later he's still faffing about. Send him upstairs with his socks and tell him he can come back down as soon as he's got them on. Much wailing and shouting that it's not fair, he can't put them on himself (he can and does every morning).

Tell him we're leaving and the girls are getting in the car. He needs to get his socks and shoes on NOW and get out to the car.

Get the girls in the car and he's still yelling that he can't. He's come downstairs with shoes and socks and sitting on the doorstep crying.

We're going to be late for the swimming lesson but he still refuses to co-operate. I end up in a complete fit of rage putting the socks and trainers on and hauling him out to the car.

Now I am 4 days of EDD with my 4th baby so perhaps a bit hormonal, but that's just out of order IMO. We have had a big chat about it. I explained why I was angry and that it must never happen again.

But I'm genuinely interested.... Who would have handled it differently, and how? If it was an activity of his we just wouldn't have gone. But it was his sisters and they were being completely co-operative.

I can't describe how angry I felt with him

[LIZS]

I'd have got him the car with no shoes and socks, maybe taken them with us, and gvien him the chance to put them on before we got there.

[Ceolas]

Oh forgot to add, by the time we got there, he had taken his shoes off

[hertsnessex]

dont think theres alot you could have done differently tbh.

hang on in there!

cx

[Weegle]

I would have taken him shoe and sockless! Good on you for getting them on him.

[divastrop]

i would have done the same as LIZS.

my ds2 is 4 and 1 month and i have to tell him about 20 times every morning to get dressed,then when we are going out its 20 times to put his socks on etc etc.

i keep telling him that the teacher wont tell him to get ready for PE that many times when he starts school next month,so he better get used to doing as he's told now.

much respect to you for still taking your dc to swimming etc when you are almost 9 months pregnant.i was so fed up towards the end that i got angry with anyone who breathed.

[Ceolas]

Yes, on reflection, I should have taken him sock-and-shoeless. Felt I was definitely 'letting him win' (although I hate that expression) by putting them on. Just didn't want to punish the DDs...

[NAB3]

I would have picked him up and put him in the car and thrown the socks and shoes in the car to be put on later.

To feel that angry about something that appeared quite trivial quite surprised me.

[NAB3]

I take it back. I see you have loads of kids and are pg so prob knackered. don't let the beggars wind you up. Take some time to rest.

[popsycal]

Both my boys take ther shoes and socks off within minutes of getting in the car. I regularly put them in the car without shoes or socks - saves putting them on twice.

Good luck with dc4 henever he/she decides to arrive

[divastrop]

actually,i dont have a car,so i would have ended up putting his socks on for him i imagine.i wouldnt get angry about it now but i probably would have cried my eyes out about it when i was pregnant.

my 4 yaer old has certain socks that he cant put on himself,and sometimes hes put them on wrong,taken them off,and needs me to put them back the right way in(?).

[mamazon]

i had this the otehr day with my ds.

i asked him for almost an hour to get his shoes and socks on.
we have special shoes that he can get on himself.

he refused so i warned him that if he didn't get them on in 2 minutes we would be leaving without him.

he wouldn't so i took Dd and went out to the car tellign him i was leaving him at home.

( my brother was upstairs but DS didn't know this)

i put DD in the car and then came back to the front door and there he was with his shoe's on. i asked him if he wanted to come with me and he said ..rather tearfuly...yes. so i put him in the car.

he has put his shoes on first time of asking every day since.

i know its a bit extreme but he had been doing this for ages and i really had lost my temper....i only said it out of anger but i have a ruke of always following through on a threat.

[Ceolas]

Actually, he gets lots of attention. He goes to nursery in the morning and his sisters are at school all day. It's just us in the afternoons and we do lots of things together (play games, bake, we always have).

[MamaMaiasaura]

ds refused to get his shoes on at this age.. he had to walk to car without them. Was cold so npt pleasant for him. After that he put his shoes on.

[KTNoo]

My ds (also 4yr2m) does this all the time. I've lost count of the times I've got everyone else in the car and he's still wailing barefoot in the street. Sometimes I start the engine and once I even drove a bit along the road! He usually ends up getting in with his shoes in his hands but at least he's in.