Is it normal for them to be uncomfy in your arms??

[Again]

My ds is 7 weeks and is always 'skooching' around in my arms. He doesn't like being held lying down in the usual newborn hold, only up on my chest/shoulder, and even then only for a minute before he's climbing around and complaining!

Does this happen to other people?

[policywonk]

Neither of mine liked being 'cradled' when they were babies - they always seemed to want to be held upright. Also, it seemed to be absolutely crucial that whoever was holding them had to be standing up - not sitting down in a nice comfy chair having a cup of tea and a chat on the phone, oh no.

[Lizzer]

Yep, dd was always an 'upright' baby unless sleeping, she loved looking out at the world from a very young age and not at me at all! No idea why but you must tell yourself you have a very intelligent, inquisitive baby who's very advanced for his age, and don't take it personally

[saggarmakersbottomknocker]

My ds2 hated being held unless he was upright and outward facing. So sort of over my arm and supported under his bum.

[evenhope]

My 5 month old DD has never liked being held in the cradle hold- sad because that is how the ILs insist on holding her and she always objects!

DH moans that she always whines unless he stands up with her. I find she fusses when I sit in the computer chair, or if I try to read while holding her

[LoveAngel]

My son never really liked being held much. He has gorwn into a very affectionate, loving little boy (aged 2 and a half) but still doesnt like to be held for more than a couple of seconds at a time. He is fiercely independent and wonderfully sociable - not a clingy child at all - and I think he was showing signs of these characteristics from birth, to be honest!

[callmeovercautious]

I thought it was just me! I got quite upset at first because I thought she did not want me to hold her. She was always looking around and crying but I soon realised she was just curious and keen to learn about her new world!

[Again]

How do you make them go to sleep though when they are too big to fit on your chest?? Seems dh finds it easier now because he's obviously much broader than i am

[margoandjerry]

Funny I was thinking about this just now. I don't think babies like being cradled in the traditional way you see in pictures. All the babies I know prefer to be upright with their head looking over your shoulder. Which is odd because you never see pictures like this in art or eg as an illustration on a baby product iykwim - the stylised mother and baby always shows a cradling position.

And as policywonk says, they prefer it if you are standing up! I've been standing up for 10 months now..

[policywonk]

Aw, sit down, Margo. Take the weight off.

[bookwormtailmum]

I think it's probably better for their digestion to be upright as well as more interesting. It's also easier to carry them in one arm and something else in the other even if you do end up with huge biceps .

[Again]

It doesn't make you feel very good about yourself though, because I keep feeling he wants to run off!!