DH is going abroad to work from Sept for 1 year. Initially planned to take me and DD's (3.5yrs & 22months) with him - now we're not sure what to do. The decision on whether me and the girls should go too has always been based purely on what is best for them. We planned initially to all go because we thought that the girls would be better of with both parents even if this meant uprooting them from nursery.
DD1 is not a very confident child. She has been at her nursery 3 days per week since 9 months and is happy there. She is still a quiet child and interacts better with her friends in very small group or 1 to 1 scenarios. When faced with situations like birthday parties even with familiar friends from nursery she will stick closely to me and it's a struggle to get her to join in. I'm sure in this sense she is not too different from lots of children. We don't know whether pulling her put of the stable environment of nursery will be more potentially more damaging than living without seeing Daddy every day for a year? We would be going to France where she can either go to nursery there or stop at home with me and her younger sister. The nurseries there are all French speaking (DD1 is not, yet). On the one hand lots of people have told me that children easily adapt but on the other hand I don't want to put DD1 in a situation where she has a difficult time and her confidence gets knocked just before she starts school back in the UK next September. Nor do i want to withdraw her from social situations altogether (ie stay at home in France with me) if it is not the best thing to do on balance.
Have spoken to health visitor for advice and going to speak to keyworker at nursery this afternoon. Would be really grateful if anyone has another angle to add! Thanks
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Meggymoose · 06/08/2007 12:32
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