Firstly I know how very lucky I am to have my darling DS. But I've always known I wanted another and now he's turned 2 I'm really feeling it strongly - physical longing, just like the first time.
DP has never been that keen - though he said he wanted kids, it took a lot of persuading to have DS (he just wanted to put it off indefinitely) and now he says he feels he just couldn't cope with the extra effort involved in having another. He's also worried about ASD (he has a brother with it) and other birth conditions, and about being a bad dad because he's not as into it as me (though in fact he's a great dad and far more hands-on than most I know). To be fair he knows I want to and he says he's trying to persuade himself. But after a very reasonable and calm conversation about it today the bottom line is no. Was quite contained about it during our talk, but now I just want to sob and sob (which if i did so to him, would just look like emotional blackmail...)
Would love to hear from anyone who knows how this feels... or even from anyone who's successfully changed their partner's mind on this...
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Longing for another, DP not keen. Feeling sorry for myself!
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snowleopard · 01/07/2007 21:28
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