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DS is turning from angel to monster - how can I stop him hitting

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VoluptuaGoodshag · 17/06/2007 22:19

It is usually born out of frustration but he will just hit whoever is nearest, usually his big sister. He is 2.5 and she is 3.8. She is quite a gentle wee girl and they do get on great and play well together. But recently I've noticed he gets very possesive of his toys and hits any child who comes near whether they are trying to take the toy or not. Other times it's frustration e.g. if his train track isn't fitting together correctly, again he'll just hit out at his sister. Bless her rather than hit him back she comes running to tell us. We hold his hands and tell him that it's naughty to smack and if he keeps doing it then we remove him from the situation but it's getting that I can't go to anyplace where there are other children as he will stand his ground no matter how big the kids around him are. Sometimes I've even noticed him just giving his sister a gentle smack on the back for no reason whatsoever.

He's also taken to throwing things, well aimed just to bloody annoy us.

Are you all going to laugh at me and say welcome to the terrible twos? His sister was never like this.

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TheArmadillo · 17/06/2007 22:24

ds has this when he gets very fustrated and needs to get the excess force out somehow.

Hitting is not acceptable when it is hitting another person or destroying something.

We do the no hitting people and removing him from situations but ds also has objects which he can hit (drum, soft toys, things like that) which seem to help him to take out his fustration without hurting anyone or doing so in an unacceptable manner.

We also have throwing things as well (his aim is particularly good ). With this we have taken the position that there are times/things/places where you can throw (he has now got a tennis set at gps - that kinda thing) but there are times/places/things where you can't.

I think its learning to deal with temper in an appropriate manner so finding something else they can do instead that is acceptable.

That's my take on it anyway.

It is fustrating but it is gradually sinking in.

Terrible twos have a lot to answer for