Ohh God!! I can hardly bring myself to write this I feel so awful.
Collected dcs from nursery and was asked to talk to their child protection officer.
Background: At the weekend, considering we were becomming at times quite a "shouty" house and that ds was doing a few things I didn't like, I decided we would draw up a list of golden rules applicable to all family members. Ds and dd were allowed to pick many of them and they included "no hitting or hurting". In addition, dh and I had an almighty row which was in front of the dcs (wrong I know) - we made up in the afternoon and it is very rare that we argue at all.
Anyway, nursery said that ds had told them that we had to have golden rules at home cos dh hits the dcs and me. To make it clear, dh has never ever lifted his hand to anyone. I have smacked ds twice (and regret doing so) both times an instinctive response to being bitten and have never smacked dd.
Other event that had triggered this was that dd had said that dh had cut up an item of her clothing and I was annoyed by it. So I was, he cut up a vest to put in the bottom of a plant pot to stop woodlice getting in and I thought he should have looked for a bit of old rag - we joked about it for days.
Getting to the point, what concerns me about this is that if nursery regared us a good parents, the second incident should not even have been recorded (and it takes 2 apparently)so they must percieve us as likely to harm our children in some way and secondly, why did ds say that - does he really think that dh is violent (he can be agressive, but never ever violent to any degree) and did we traumatise him with our argument?
What should I do - I feel I have failed them all in some way!!!
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GooseyLoosey · 14/06/2007 12:11
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