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jabs - to go in, or not to go in, what's worse?!

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bohemianbint · 29/05/2007 21:25

bah, DS is having his BCG tomorrow and I'm ashamed to say I go to pieces every time he has to have a jab. Doesn't help that he's nearly 10 months old now and much more aware than he was the last time.

Anyway, my mum is coming with me and has offered to take him in so I don't have to, because I end up howling far worse than DS does and for much longer.

Think if I take him in and let them hurt him he'll blame me? Think if I don't take him in and let my mum do it he'll think I've abandoned him and hate me more? Think I'm over sensitive and should just sort myself out?!

What dya reck?

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bohemianbint · 29/05/2007 21:38

someone? anyone?

pleeeeeeeeeeease!

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DumbledoresGirl · 29/05/2007 21:39

Ummm, do you really want to know?

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spudmasher · 29/05/2007 21:40

Let your mum take him in. He will pick up on your emotions and that will upset him before he's even had it.
Be outside waiting with a big smile and a cuddle.

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bohemianbint · 29/05/2007 21:41

well, that sounds reasonable. It really does upset me. Is anyone else this wussy?

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DumbledoresGirl · 29/05/2007 21:42

OK, I will go along with spudmasher for the sake of harmony.

Do you have a needle phobia or is this just a measure of your soft-heartedness?

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bohemianbint · 29/05/2007 21:43

bit of both I'd say.

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luciemule · 29/05/2007 21:48

I think you'd be better sending your mum in but if not, just be brave for him and hold it all together. Imagine if you were in an accident or something - you wouldn't be able to go to pieces then would you? I have a huge fear of wasps but when I've got the kids with me I have to be rational and hold myself together. Once I let go of DS' pushchair in a sloped car park and just ran from the wasp, as the pushchair started rolling away! Luckily DH was there but he went ballistic! Sometimes you just have to put things into perspective - how ill might your DS be for example if he didn't have the jab and caught the diease? He needs to have it so just be brave, go in with him, hold him on your knee but look away and then give him lots of hugs and kisses afterwards. Sorry if I sound harsh but you might need to do it again when your mum isn't there.

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DumbledoresGirl · 29/05/2007 21:49

Well, if you have a needle phobia, I understand phobias and would support you in staying out of the room (You don't want to transfer your fear to your son). If it were just that you were soft-hearted, I would advise you to toughen up a bit as there will be worse things to face along the road of parenting. You know, babies don't always cry when they have jabs? My youngest child had his MMR and recently his pre school jabs, and a needle into the back of his hand when he had an operation, all without even stopping smiling.

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bohemianbint · 29/05/2007 21:50

You're right, I know, and I have done it before, I just really struggle. Interesting you should say about wasps, they're my biggest phobia. I got stung in the park the other week and I freaked out and jump away so badly I sprained my knee!

Hmmmm....think it could be time for therapy...

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spudmasher · 29/05/2007 21:51

You know he needs the jab. You know it is for the best so don't worry about him being upset.
He will be upset about a great many things during the toddler years - some of which you will have done on purpose because you know it is for the best. EG not letting him have an ice cream before dinner. This does not mean to say you are being cruel. Think of the jab like that. You are doing what is best for him. Yes he will be upset and it will hurt but is is for his wellbeing.

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bohemianbint · 29/05/2007 21:53

Cheers. Think I'll be sending him in with my mum!

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dinny · 29/05/2007 21:53

just try and be brave - what would you do if he had to have a GA or something? youc an't just crumble stay strong and take a deep breath. it'll be you he wants there to comfort him.

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luciemule · 29/05/2007 21:54

My DD was in hospital last weekend and the kids ward is on the 10th floor. My lift phobia kicked in on the way down taking my DS home and I just stood there for 10 mins walking in then running out again. Luckily, a family saw me crying and in a state and offered to go down with me but the wife looked a bit pale when we were in there as I think she thought I was a bit mad and might hyperventalate in the lift! I kept telling myself I had to go down on my own for my DD but it was so hard. You don't want your kids to grow up with similar fears.

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bohemianbint · 30/05/2007 09:18

Ta for replies. I was in and out of hospital as a child and had 3 operations at the age of 3 which I remember so I'm wondering if that's what's making me such a wimp!