My children have just been put in foster care and I'm scared

[Spannapiana]

My children have been placed with foster carers, an hour away from us. SS have been granted an interim care order. I have just finished a 4 week residential at a treatment centre for alcohol and drug misuse (only alcohol for me) and the children have been removed whilst I was there. I have since discovered that on the chronology of events written by SS, that there are glaring lies, making me out to be much worse than I have been. I believe my discoveries to be correct, and have had confirmation from the police. I have a solicitor, but at the end of the day he knows SS well, and let's face it, they (and cases like me) keep the gravy train going. The guardian is not on board with me and husband at present, she is taking the chronology as truth. I just don't know what to do...lots more going on, just wondered if anyone has been in my situation as a mum doing her best to get her children back? Please help...

[CarGirl]

sorry no experience but I know foster parents who have always told me that ss have to include children going back to the parents as one of the options right until the end of the outcome IYSWIM. In other words you should be given the opportunity to prove that you can care for them etc.

[time4me]

You sound very brave and articulate.Please be strong and bear in mind that your feelings count.Yes I agree with you about the gravy train as I had a dispute with ss over the care of my son,I was shocked at how little they were prepared to listen to my side,it was just other agencies they wanted to hear.I think things have moved on since then,it was nearly ten years ago.
Good Luck,my child was never taken into care but could you keep a diary to show them one day about how much this is hurting you?Surely this is love for them.

[lisad123]

If you have had it confirmed by the police, then ask them to confirm in writing, and ask your solictor to use in court.
Well done for completing your rehab. How many children do you have?
The chronology would have been prepared from past SS files, so write down all that you feel is wrong and ask them to confirmwhere the information has come from.

Good Luck
L

[GiantSquirrelSpotter]

I know nothing whatsoever about this, but have you phoned parentline? They probably won't be able to help you with this, but they may be able to signpost you to someone who can.

I also found this site here which looks like it might not directly be relevant to your case, but you might find a link on it to put you in touch with someone who can give you some good advice.

[Spannapiana]

Thanks, some good advice here, particularly the link...still need to get to the bottom of social services lies/crap contact with children...any advice would be welcome!