moved overseas, dd of 2 yrs refusing to go to bed, baby due in 5 weeks......help?!

[Egypt]

My dd of 2.8 yrs has always been good at going to bed, settled into routine, sometimes makes excuses etc but on the whole very good and definitely no tears. We moved to singapore 5 weeks ago and the first 10 nights were hell obviously with the time difference, which was tiring but to be expected. The next 2 weeks she's spent going to sleep at around 9 even with a 7pm TRY, wishful thinking from us (she always went to bed at 7pm in the UK). Been very clingy, naturally. This week has been hellish. We have moved into a new house and the first 2 nights she went out like a light, no getting in and out of bed, no shouting, asleep by 830 which was much better! but the last 4 nights she has made every excuse not to go under the sun, won't let me leave her side, screams and runs out after me. Her clinginess has increased. Bless her I feel terrible. She is obviously experiencing change and it's altered her confidence and security. BUT, I can't go on like this. The baby is due in 5 weeks and I need my evenings to be like they were before. I am finding myself losing my temper with her and that's just not on. I don't want to do that. So......

what do I do? What is the equivalent of cc with a nearly 3 yr old? Tonight, I got tough, gulp. Had to literally pick her up from the playroom kicking and screaming after persuading for ages, and dunk her in the bath. went into bed ok, read story, then wouldn't let me leave. read to her again (maybe shouldn't) then wouldn't let me leave, holding my hand, wanting a cuddle, so I left, blowing kisses and eased my way out, but she cried and ran out after me. i picked her up and put her back, repeated this 3 or 4 times. the last time she knew i was going to put her back and turned around and ran in herself. Then she cried and cried 'i want mummy' for about - actually, only 5 mins. has now gone to sleep - although havent checked! its 850pm. she stopped crying at about 840pm

is this right? what do i do tomorrow night? the same i guess? any tips more than welcome...

btw she has a night light, familiar stuff around her, etc. could she be OVER tired? she's waking around 8am. should I be waking her earlier?

shit she's up! wanting a wee. walked right down to the lounge.

this wouldnt have happened if she let me put a nappy on her tonight. took her to the loo, she decided she wanted her potty, 3 flights downstairs, went and got it, wanted it in her bedroom, 4 flights up. had a wee, sorted bed out,did put a nappy on, got in bed, wanted to hold me again. left her, she came out, i turned round, she ran back, now crying 'i want mummy' again .....

it's 9.06pm.

[Egypt]

bump

please?

[fennel]

We moved house twice last year, though not to Singapore, and my 2yo - previously a great sleeper - was much worse for quite a long time, especially in the second new house. She changed nursery twice in that time too. In the end we did have to just get tough with her and insist she stayed in bed. But we did wait quite a while until she was a bit more settled before being totally firm.

I'm not sure there is any very effective way besides being firm and consistent, but it is hard when you know it's the move which has disrupted them.

[Egypt]

thanks fennel. think i might start waking her at 7am as well.. i need to get tough otherwise i'm a wreck myself. dh is away at the moment in the uk, so she cries for him when she doesnt get her way with me. breaks my heart. he works away a lot too. must be hard on her. totally happy in the day however, although has also started a new school so that's been quite difficult for her.

[Egypt]

anyone else? bump
thank u