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Need advice on how to punish my son

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bananasmoothie · 14/02/2007 16:09

I'm absolutely furious.

It's my sons birthday today, he's 6.

For the past few months he has been an absolute nightmare, he's been naughty at school (so bad that he now has to sit on his own and has a behaviour report card). He's been naughty and cheeky at home and he's broken numerous things by throwing them in temper etc.

Anyway as I said, it's his birthday today and to be frank he's been a right little s*d all day, he refused to get ready so we could take him out for a meal, he's been fighting, said he disliked my present (this was during his temper strop) and he has again thrown things etc.

Anyway he has just come to me and told me that his brand new Playstation game (that was a birthday present) had been broken, I looked and the case has been deliberately torn (the plastic and inside paper cover), I asked who had done it and he said his brother, both denied it until I said I was going to phone the police and they would come and work out who'd done it, he then admittided that it was him and said he only did it as he thought it was an old game. I'm livid.

I need suitable punishment ideas because to be honest, I'm sick to the back teeth of him.

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McDreamy · 14/02/2007 16:11

I would take it away for a fixed period of time telling him why. Would that work? BTW it's my DD birthday today as well - not very romantic is it having DC's birthday's on Val Day!!

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Sheraz · 14/02/2007 16:11

Take his playstation off him until he behaves?

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FluffyMummy123 · 14/02/2007 16:11

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paulaplumpbottom · 14/02/2007 16:12

Ungrateful!!! Cancel any further Birthday celebrations.

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FluffyMummy123 · 14/02/2007 16:13

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edam · 14/02/2007 16:15

This is clearly a much bigger problem than one playstation game. What are you doing to give him positive attention - stuff that encourages him to join in/pay attention/co-operate/help others?

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scotlou · 14/02/2007 16:15

It's his birthday - it's his present - he's 6
I would be annoyed but wouldn't punish him

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bobsmum · 14/02/2007 16:26

My ds is 4.5 so a bit younger, but prone to strops too.

I grudgingly looked at the amount of Cbeebies and computer time he had, cut it down drastically combined with a kitchen timer for his benefit and suddenly I have my boy back.

Ashamed it was so simple. Might not even be an issue in your house, but any more than an hour a day of either and he's a different child.

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bobsmum · 14/02/2007 16:28

As for now I would put the game on a shelf that's visible and tell him he's got to earn it back over the next few days. It will be his eventually, it's up to him how quickly he gets it back. Use the good old bits of pasta in a jar trick. One bit for good behaviour, one out for bad - he'll soon get the hang of consequences! Don't make the quantity needed too unachievable though.

Count to 10 before you even speak to him atm

Good luck!

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FluffyMummy123 · 14/02/2007 16:29

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bobsmum · 14/02/2007 16:31

(I wondered that too, but was too afraid to say anything...ds gets cbeebies website and playhouse disney site and I thought that was pushing it tbh. I'm far too chicken for this site....)

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juuule · 14/02/2007 16:31

He doesn't sound very happy, does he? Is something bothering him?
As regards his birthday - did he want to go out for a meal? What was his temper strop about? As someone else said, his birthday, his present. Yes I'd be annoyed but I think not having his playstation game is probably punishment enough.

I would really want to get to the bottom of what's upsetting him though.

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adath · 15/02/2007 11:59

When I read your post I did wonder what was bothering him? It does sound like he is an unhappy little boy for some reason. Is there something going on in his life right now that could be upsetting him?

Like someone else said did he want to go out for a meal? That particular response could have been because he is 6 has been given lovely presents for his birthday and wants to stay and play with them rather than go out and have to behave properly for a meal.

I think the damage to his own property is enough of a punishment TBH we have always gone on the principal that it's theirs if they wreck it, it is their loss and it will not be replaced.
I would be trying to find out what is causing this behaviour rather than trying to punish it really it does sound like he is a little man ith something in his mind.

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