I have just read a great post on the pros and cons of having three children, which contained an interesting comment that having one child was actually hardest. So, I thought I would create post on that subject.
I currently have one DS (who is nearly 2) but I often think about having a second child and have done so for years now: DH is, however, steadfastly opposed to another baby.
When I try to rationalse why I wish to extend my family I come back to the same reason: I am from a family of two and as my parents have aged, become ill and sadly, in my dad's case, died, I have had a sibling to share the burden with, even though, unofortunately, we have never been particularly close. It is also wonderful to have a sibling to share family memories and history with; not to mention the joys of nephews and neices. If I am honest, I also long to have a DD; its not that I don't adore by DS (I do) and I am realistic that a second child could well be another DS, but if I do not try, how will I know what is meant to be?
Interestingly, my DS comes from a family of three but I think that he would rather have been an only child! Whilst DH has pointed out that we can give more quality time and more benefits to one child, I cannot help but worry that DS may become spoilt, that friends will not make up for not having siblings to fight/love/grow up with and, perhaps of most concern, that he may begin to feel burdened by having the responsibility of older parents.
So, is having two children that much harder than one (I have heard some people say that 1+1=3). What are the pros and cons of having 1 and 2 children? Is it possible to managed work and looking after two children successfully? Does a second child help you relax as a parent? Am I right to worry about having an only child? All views would be welcome.
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Does 1+1 equal 2 or 3: interested in views of other mums?
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Novembergirl · 02/11/2006 11:49
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