Would really appreciate any advice on my situation. My dd is 5 and ds 3.5 so they are reasonably close together. The problem is that they just seem to quarrell, bicker, fight etc whenever they are together. The mornings and after school periods are a nightmare and I'm getting to the point where I am at my wits end. I have suffered with depression in the past when ds was about 8 months and was on Citalopram for a year which did help. I saw GP last week who suggested some counselling which I am happy with as I don't particularly want to go back on ADs. I left Dh back in March so am now coping as a single parent, although he never had much input because he worked away during the week, so on a day to day basis things aren't that different. They argued and quarrelled when dh and I were still together, so although they are bound to have been affected to some extent by our split, I don't think that has made the situation any better or worse in terms of how they are towards each other.
The mornings start ok but once we sit down for breakfast the arguing starts, it then degenerates into an hour of me constantly trying to make them behave nicely at the table, get dressed, I suppose fairly normal morning scene for a lot of families. They argue over everything and seem extremely jealous of each other although I try to give them equal amounts of attention etc. The afternoons, I dread, I pick ds up from pre-school at 3.15 and he starts the dreaded whinging which continues until we get to school to pick up dd. As soon as we get home they are like Tom and Jerry! I have tried various things, rewarding good behaviour, trying to ignore bad behaviour etc etc, star charts, naughty step but nothing seems to work. If it is dry I try to get them out to the park, to ride bikes or just have a play but they even argue about that. This morning was a classic, as soon as I went out of the room to go to the loo, it was as if world war III had started.
It's got to the stage now where I dread getting up in the mornings, and I dread the afternoons even more.
I get so frustrated and fed up I end up losing my temper and shouting at them, which I know is the wrong thing to do, but I just can't seem to take control of the situation. I'm sure there is an element of me being a bit depressed and I suppose they are picking up on this. Anyone got any advice for me??
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Melly · 31/10/2006 10:00
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