sexual images and curious child

[bonnie21]

Hi there, im new to this site, but needed a little guidance.
My daughter has just turned 10 and has a tablet her father bought her for her birthday. I am not a fan of these at such an early age for many reason, mostly conserving her innocence. She is out for the day, and i wanted to see what she had been looking at, who shes been messaging etc. and behold a string of google history of naked bodies, willies etc.... she has had minimal sex ed recently and we have talked as much as i see required of her age about sex and our bodies. From what she has seen on this little search must have shocked and scared her for one and also bought up lots of questions...
secondly how do i handle this with her father? we live separately and this search string has been in the last two days while in his care?

i know its a normal part of growing up to be curious.
i am now aware that my husband has not put adult content locks on the tablet.

im looking more for advise on how to handle this with my daughter who is clearly curious?

[LiberalLibertines]

Erm, talk to her!

10 is plenty old enough to be told the basic facts, she may start her period soon, have you spoke to her about that?

But yes, blocks need putting in place on the tablet.

[bonnie21]

yes periods, boobs, hair, hygiene....all done, like i said she's had all appropriate info.... and apart from the obvious which is to put a block on i was more looking for how do i approach the matter? firstly ive invaded her privacy? secondly shes potentially seen quite graphic stuff...

[DioneTheDiabolist]

You have not invaded her privacy, you have checked her online activities. Tell her you have checked. Tell her what you discovered. Ask her what she wanted to know when she did her search. Then answer her questions.

I would advise you to have this conversation when you are doing something together (washing up, cooking, crafting etc.). This will be less intimidating for her than face to face. Once her questions have been answered you should talk to her about online safety and appropriate content. Oh, and get a filter for her tablet.

Good luck OP.

[bonnie21]

thank you..... we have a very honest and open relationship, but i was concerned that this new phase of growing meant she could be more private. i will talk to her tonight...x

[LittleLionMansMummy]

I think where dc and the internet is concerned it's your job to ensure she's safe. Any privacy considerations are trumped by safety and I'd explain that to her. I know people who won't let their dc have access to Facebook unless they include them as a friend.

After you've spoken to her I'd definitely be getting her dad to install parental locks.