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I live in London with DP and preschool DS. We are here primarily for my job. We have no family here, and little support network (my friends are still childless and thus have melted away). We both work FT. Life to be honest, is quite tough, financially as well as socially.
My DP is from Liverpool. He moved here two years ago to be with me. He has a child from a previous relationship which he travels back up to see every few weeks. I am uncomfortable that he doesn't see them a lot.
We are trying to decide whether we should move back to Liverpool. Pros are plenty of family support, and a close, warm, strong family for my son to grow up with, money goes much further, for my small London flat, we could pay off most of the mortgage on a four bed, my DP gets to see his other son and he could stay with us easily. We could also have more children, not affordable in London.
My concerns are work related - my company is national and I think I could probably get a transfer to a local office. However I feel that when it comes to different jobs in the future I would be more limited out of London (am senior in marketing). My DP can easily transfer with his job but I am the breadwinner.
My other concern is something I think I am going to sound like a twat for saying. My family are very driven, ambitious - all kids go to uni, good jobs etc. However they are pretty cold, unloving and unwelcoming. So we all have good jobs but most of us are on antidepressants and struggling with life. My DP's family are warm, welcoming and supportive, but without the same educational aspirations. Life is tough for them as money is so tight and I want my DS to have opportunities that education offers, whilst growing up with a loving family. There's also a little bit of an off the back of a van culture and I'm a bit worried that he might be led astray. Note my family dislike my DP intensely because he's 'working class' and doesn't earn a lot, so they will go nuts if we move.
Am I being a twat in thinking like this though?
Should I move?
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Shallwegoupnorth · 25/08/2014 15:53
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