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So fed up of kids all day everyday

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Rinkydinkypink · 20/08/2014 17:37

Moaning but really I need it to change!

Ds, 6 is attention seeking, demanding, never stops talking. Everything is boring or dull, his friends are all at holiday club, on holiday. He won't play in his room and is therefore restricted as to what he can play with because of his sister.

Dd 1 (14 months), into everything. Has to have everything now, under my feet. Follows me to the loo and tries to help Hmm. Empties everything possible. I can't take my eyes off her for a second!

I'm so bored and fed up now. Dh works very long hours I'm on my own with them from 7am to 7pm. I work 3 nights a week and I'm trying to apply for jobs, prepare for interviews etc. I have no childcare Hmm so its all done after the children go to bed. Dd doesn't sleep through yet so in up at least once a night.

We go out everyday but I'm shattered, sick of the park, money is tight. Only one grandparent can help out but she's hardwork and generally will come with us places but doesn't really help and won't have the children on her own. Think she find it too much.

I've cried everyday now for the last week with frustration, boredom and being dementedSad.

I can't see how in going to get through the next few weeks. Ds in tears because he's sick of his sister, dd cries because she's 1. Everyone fights.

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PrincessAnnaOfArundale · 20/08/2014 18:40

I feel your pain. Kind of all part and parcel of parenting but still we can moan about just how hard it is!

My DS1 is also 6 and exactly same as yours in terms of him refusing to play in his room (or in fact be more than 2 metres away from me!). He talks endlessly which is sweet really but draining when it's all day.

DS2 is 2 and again into everything and talks constantly. He's lovely too but demands everything DS1 has, empties toys, wants company.

The fact that he wants everything DS1 has is frustrating for them both yet still DS1 refuses to play in his room so we are so limited as to what we can all play together.

I am basically just echoing what you've said and clearly I have no advice but you should know you're not alone!

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QTPie · 20/08/2014 21:04

I only have one (DS 4.5 - younger, but sounds very like your DS). Won't stop talking and/or making very silly sounds, all very loudly, especially if we go into shops. Physically all over me like a rash - kissing me, hanging off me, stroking me, climbing on me. Very demanding: all I hear is what he wants to do and what he doesn't want to do, again and again and again.

This is now 6 week of his Summer holiday (at preschool 3 days a week until end if first week in July, starts Reception in Sept). We have hardly spent any time apart (so why is he so clingy?!). I am looking forward to him returning to school: so I can get things done and have some peace/"head space".

Love him to bits. Feel so lucky to be able to spend the time with him, but goodness it is emotionally and patience exhausting....

AND I only have one!

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mummyxtwo · 21/08/2014 09:02

Ah bless you. It's not long until school restarts - 1 and a half weeks for us although I realise ours may go back sooner. I do understand how you're feeling. My ds1 is 5.5yo, dd2 22mo. My dh also works very long hours and isn't home before 7-8pm weekdays, and I work 3 nights a week too. My dd2 has always been very much into everything, climbing the furniture, has to be watched constantly. She ate Lego Darth Vader's helmet on Tuesday... But things are certainly getting easier as she gets a bit older, and that will be the case for your lo too. A couple of things that work for us - we have a single tray of lego on the dining table, where ds1 can sit and play with his Lego Star Wars pieces. He can't play with them elsewhere downstairs in case dd2 eats them, and I have to watch that she doesn't get at it, but (mostly) I manage to prevent her from getting at it (the above event was the first we've had and because I stupidly nipped upstairs without shutting her out of the dining room). Dd2 also has a nap at around 11am, so I allow ds1 to have computer games for a limited time then - Angry Birds Star Wars - and it means I get 30 mins sitting with him with a cuppa and my Kindle to restore a little sanity. It's not long but it helps. Hang in there!

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ROARmeow · 21/08/2014 12:12

Me too.

Have a 4.5 year old and a 2 year old.

Brew Cake for everyone on this thread.

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Rinkydinkypink · 21/08/2014 15:52

After crying at the bottom of the garden for 5 minutes before I was found by ds and dh last night I officially broke and asked got help.

Ds has gone to stay with his grandma and I had a coffee out this morning on my own for a whole 50 minutes.

I've got dd on her own which is actually really nice. Its tricky to get stuff done but possible. I'm rung out emotionally. I'm not very good at this sahm thing. It's driving me loopy loo.

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carlywurly · 21/08/2014 16:01

Sympathy. I've been off work 2 days with the dcs who are 6 and 9 and am drained with the bickering. It's honestly easier to be at work.

Sanity breaks are essential and I well remember the days of being a sahm and crying with boredom and frustration on bad days.

I made a few good friends with similar aged dcs and they were my lifeline - it dilutes it a bit!

I work part time now and it feels like the best of both Smile

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Bambamb · 21/08/2014 16:04

Oh I absolutely understand :(
Try to keep your chin up, it's not much longer until they go back.
My DH is currently doing extra decorating jobs straight from work as we need the money. But this means he doesn't get home until 10pm ish on those days. I feel bad having a moan at him as he's doing it for us and is tired too from working so hard, but I am finding those days just awful, they go on and on and there are only so many trips to the park we can do. Mine are 5 and 9 months. Roll on September, I'm just not cut out for this AT ALL. I go back to work in September after my mat leave and I'm looking forward to it! Blush

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fairylightsintheloft · 21/08/2014 17:10

yep, totally get it. DH and I both teach. DCs are 5 and 3. The holidays are a bit of a trial because we just aren't used to being around each other 24/7. I know most people would think how fantastic that we have all this family time, and it is but I am dying to get back to work and have a 20 min break hiding in my office and going to the loo alone and not having to negotiate settlements between who had what toy first or who hit who (I teach in a nice secondary). I do everything possible NOT to have both kids on my own for any length of time - its just not much fun for anyone. I could have just about been a SAHM financially but knew v v early on that I could not do it temperamentally. Hang in there Smile

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vladthedisorganised · 21/08/2014 17:43

Yep, absolutely. I could have written QTPie's post.

I can work at home if I need to, but job is under threat and I need to weigh up my options in finding another one. DH works long hours and has been away Hmm, ILs help but live a bit far away to help on a day-to-day basis, and my dad is ill so can't be of much practical help.

I feel like I snatch three seconds worth of conversation with DH in between DD being insanely demanding and talking ALL THE TIME. When DD isn't being insanely demanding (i.e. asleep), my dad will phone 'for a chat' because he's bored. DD appears to need about 7 hours sleep a night (I need about 9) which doesn't help. And my brain can only take so much Frozen.
Friends with children are happily trotting around on holiday while our 'staycation' involves yet another trip to the park or the library where I get precisely 2.5 seconds in the adult section and spend a mind-crushing two hours reading Rainbow Fairy stories to DD in the children's section. Aargh.

DD found me sobbing into a cushion after one particularly challenging day.. and I only have one!

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evertonmint · 21/08/2014 18:00

I have a 6yo, almost 4yo and 8wo. I've had help from grandparents for about a week and DH was off for a few days at the start. But DH is out at work 7.30-7.30 so the days slone are on us. I'm fairly sleep deorived and DS2 has a few medical issues (resolvable) which mean he has been very grumpy since treatment started 2 weeks ago. DD has been at nursery 2 days a week and I would have gone insane without it.

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evertonmint · 21/08/2014 18:04

Posted too soon! Fortunately for me, I've done my last day alone with them as we go on holiday tomorrow until a couple of days before school. I've enjoyed the hols in many ways, having lazy starts to the day and hanging out with my DCs who I do find fun and enjoy spending time with, but I'm on my knees now and desperate for routine/naps/free time with just the grumpy (but very gorgeous) baby again.I feel your pain Smile

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