Fed up

[Madcat22]

I truly love DC (4 years and 7 months) and think I'm not too bad as a mum. I try my bloody best and my kids are loved, healthy and happy. Am especially proud of this as DH away with work lots, I have no family nearby and have a very demanding job. However... does any one else spend frequent periods of time feeling generally fed up and p*d off with just how tiring/repetitive/relentless and quite frankly sometimes boring it is? Just feel like I'm chasing my arse all the time. Sorry, just hoping I'm not alone because I feel guilty.

[PrincessAnnaOfArundale]

You're definitely not alone! I really think if we were more honest then we'd realise nearly every mother feels like this. I certainly do. I have 2 boys age 6 and 2. I feel so worn down by the sheer monotony and relentlessness of it all. I love them both enormously. I'd never be without them but it's like a job that's just never done. The same shit needs doing, day in, day out and it's just exhausting.

Both my boys are relatively easy going now but the simmering squabbles and endless questions, bed times, cooking, cleaning, picking up the same crap every day gets to me. So no, you're definitely not alone!

One thing that has made my life better is trying to congratulate myself on the boys being fed, dressed, clean (ish!) and loved every night when I put them to bed. Their bellies are full and we all make sure we kiss each other and tell them we love them. Sounds cheesy but as long as kids feel loved then I really do think you're doing a good job.

Also try to make time for yourself. Certainly not easy with a 7 month old but believe me it is important just once a week to take some time out to either meet up with friends, go for a walk, go shopping, whatever floats your boat. I go swimming once a week and make time in the evenings to read and do things I enjoy!

It does get better as they get older, that's all I can say. I was miserable when they were babies but it gets so much more interesting as they get older.

[Nevercan]

I was thinking the same thing today. I love my dd3 and dd5 but at times it is v repetitive. I gave to say mealtimes do my head in at the mo. I don't know how many times I say sit down but it's way too many

[Sapat]

Same here. Motherhood has in no way improved my life. I keep thinking that it will get better as they get older and we can communicate in a more satisfying manner. just had DC3 though, so might be a while (though am loving having a baby again).

My parents had 3 kids and 5 grandchildren and are loving how full and busy their lives are. I think the early years are hard, very hard work and largely unrewarding.

[slightlyconfused85]

I only have one toddler and I often feel overwhelmed.by the motony of it. Today is an example of this. I love her bones but sometimes doing things to suit small people is very very boring. Lots of people feel the same.