This may be long so try and bear with me, I'm in tears typing it.
DD1 has just turned 10, were in Scotland so she's just going into P6. P5 started off ok, then around Christmas time one of her friends mums (well call the DD Katie) told me Katie was being bullied by Bee and she had to go up to school and speak to them. Katie's mum was very upset, I spoke to DD1 about this and that Katie shouldn't be left out etc.
After Christmas DD1 started saying Bee wasn't being nice to her, basically she's a Queen Bee and wants to rule the class, there's 10 girls in the class, one of the girls we'll call her Sophie had also been a victim of Bees bullying and now wasn't allowed to play with Bee and was playing with the boys. Queen Bee dictates everything who plays with who etc and it was my DD1s turn to be left out. DD1 was upset and crying so I went and spoke to the HT who said I wasn't the first person to complain and that it wasn't just Bee and that DD1 had been part of the "in" group too. I accept this completely and had spoken to DD1 about this. HT assured me it would be dealt with.
It kind of rumbled on sometimes DD1 was ok sometimes she would be moaning about Bee, I could see this for myself as I help out in the school.
Then about a month ago Bees mum approached me to say that 3 people had said I had been slagging off Bee and had even been to their door complaining about her. I said I wasn't slagging off a 10 year old just that I had concerns about DD1, I had actually been collecting DD1 from Katie's house and Katie's mum was talking to me about Bee. Same with another mum who had said to me her DD was having problems with Bee too. This mum had actually been to see Bees mum and said she didn't want to know.
So so far 4 girls have had problems with Bee. Then another girl in the class actually left school end of term and I believe part of the reason was Bee as DD1 had said she had called her a "paki" because she had dark skin. I told DD1 why this was not acceptable and had the girl told the teacher, DD1 said no.
So it's holiday time here has been for 4 weeks, DD1 hasn't asked to go see any of her friends at all. (Last year she was begging me to) she told me she has no friends. Katie went past her on her bike the other day and she barely said hello, this was Katie who was her best friend last summer sleepovers the lot. She really likes this other girl Lisa but she's quite shy and really under Queen Bees control in that she's not allowed to talk to DD1.
So poor DD1s dreading going back to school, they have jogged the classes around a bit but she's still in Bees class. Oh I told the class teacher too.
What do I do? I know 10 year old girls are terrible but it's more than just 10 year olds being 10 year olds. DD1 can't change classes.
I asked her out of curiosity would she want to move schools and she said she would but unlike her friend who is moving, I would have to move DD2 and 3 and they are really happy at the school.
Do I have another word with the HT at the start of term?
DD1s a sensitive wee thing and this is really getting her down.
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sweetkitty · 26/07/2014 23:32
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