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Lack of personal space

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MrsMarigold · 25/07/2014 18:53

I'm going slightly mad, my two DC aged two and three, always have to be on top of me cuddling me or sitting on me (DD aged 2 is also constantly attacking me for breastmilk) but I just crave personal space it's constant and relentless. I am a SAHM and have currently put myself in timeout because I was grumpy. DH is rarely around because works long hours and they will only be put to bed by me. I'm having lots of nightmares about being trapped and I swear it's just because I feel so pawed all day.

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MrsMarigold · 25/07/2014 19:11

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3littlefrogs · 25/07/2014 19:16

It will pass, I promise.

Do you want to keep breast feeding? You are allowed to stop - I just wondered because you mentioned it.

I BF mine for 14 months, 12 months, and 16 months respectively. That was enough for me TBH. They all gave up spontaneously. It was sad at the time, but the right time for them.

Is there anyone you could partner up with for sharing DC? I used to have a friend's DC one afternoon a week and she would have mine. Just to get a breathing space.

My DH worked 120 hours a week when mine were that age and it is hard.

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3littlefrogs · 25/07/2014 19:18

Also - the one bit of advice I would give would be to say take them out and walk their little legs off so that they are in bed and asleep by 7.30 pm every night.

Then, put your feet up and relax for at least an hour.

The house work will still be there when they have grown up and left home.

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PeteHornberger · 25/07/2014 20:53

I know how you feel and I only have 1! She's 2 and very cuddly, which is lovely but sometimes it's too much. She's been ill this week too, so extra cuddly and in the heat it all feels a bit much.

No real advice but some solidarity.

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MaryAnnTheDasher · 25/07/2014 21:41

More solidarity here. 4,2 yo and 5 week old. They all want a piece of me and in this heat I am finding it unbearable! I actually have no words of advice only that it definitely calms down as they get older, my 4yo is getting better and I find myself wishing he wanted a cuddle!

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MrsMarigold · 26/07/2014 21:34

Arghh good to know I'm not the only one. Today has been much better. I want to stop breastfeeding and have cut down drastically. 3littlefrogs your life sounds very much like mine - what does your DH do? My mother also says to just enjoy the cuddles.

We go out daily but I think somedays I overdo it - this week we've been out on three full day trips.

I always make them walk loads and they have over 30 stairs to climb to their bedrooms so they are usually exhausted and are good sleepers - usually till 7.30am. People are always amazed at the distances they do. Today my DS asked me if I was at the end of my tether and I felt bad, I must enjoy it more because I love them so much.

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MrsMarigold · 05/08/2014 11:25

Today again it's horrendous, last night I was up with both of them and now they just want to touch me constantly, admittedly they want to give kisses and have hugs but I just want to run away and am super snappy with them. I feel bad it must be confusing to be with someone so unpredictable but I've got no-one to give me a breather unless I ask the cleaner but frankly I'd rather not as she always charges. My DH worked all weekend and I haven't really seen him since last Tuesday. My son also always wants to jump on me and do somersaults. If I try and sweep the floor he takes the chance to lead on my back and kicks and screams giddy up mummy. If I turn on the telly they don't want to watch they just come to find me.

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