I am hoping that someone can help us as we do not know what to do. We think we must have done something wrong with parenting our son as we have a very unhappy situation and he is just 6. Generally:
He always wants to get his own way (probably not that uncommon in young children). If he does not get what he wants he kicks off quite a lot of the time very quickly.
He often refuses to do what he is told. We ask nicely and then when ignored several times we have to demand and he still often will not do as he is told.
Maybe most worryingly he equates getting what he wants to love. Conversely he believes that if he does not get what he want you hate him. So very quickly we will be told "you don't love me, "you never loved me" or " I wish I could just run away" with violent tears etc.
He is very very sensitive. He hates being told off or criticised at all - even if we said something like that was good but that [fill in the gap] could be improved he would see this as criticism and would kick off and then say that we were not being nice. One bad thing in his eyes will ruin an entire day of good things.
He is always looking for attention and seems incapable of amusing himself at all. We spend loads and loads of time with him doing all sorts of activities but it never seems to be enough.
He hates supposed injustice. So if he plays for example football and someone cheats during a game he often has a meltdown. If he sticks to rules he goes nuts if others don't.
Do you think these are normal (bad) parenting issues or the sign of something else. Normal "tactics" just do not seem to work with him. We have tried. Playing hardball just escalates matters and the more we put our foot down the more he thinks we hate him.
What can we do to try to improve this? It is almost as if the way he sees certain things is wrong - how can we correct the way he sees any criticism or him not getting his own way as us not loving him? Some of you may think this is just a try on on his part but I really think he sees it like this.
Do you think we need to see a professional and if so what sort? a parenting person to tell us what we are doing incorrectly - a psychologist - no idea what sort of people are out there that could help. And can we get this help without going through the doctor or school? what type of person would we be looking for? Thanks ladies. Someone please try and put us on the right track and please no flaming as I feel bad enough about this already.
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Is this standard growing up boy anger and bad parenting or something more serious?
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summermothering · 22/07/2014 00:14
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