I need some serious advice have tried everything. I have 2 children 7 & 5 and I absolutely dread bedtime. It starts at 7pm with the 2 of them going up to brush teeth etc usually under my supervision sometimes not, then story time in each bedroom usually with the other pulling some sort of antic while the story is being read. I can control this by threatening to stop the story and it generally goes ok. I find though they don't really listen. Then cuddles etc & lights off (doors open and landing light on). Then I go down to DH (yes he does bedtime sometimes but usually avoids it & I don't blame him) and the antics start - running in and out of each others' rooms, sometimes playing mostly messing all sorts of antics going on. As I work fulltime I'm usually tired enough to go to bed myself between 8-9 in the hope of some me time (and web surfing/reading) but they will just run in and out of the room encouraged by the other. I've tried reward charts & they just don't care so it's a joke. Eg they're only starting to settle now & it's 10.12pm. Every night the same thing 3 hours of bedtime antics me shouting up the stairs "go to bed !! Get into bed !! Get out of her room ! Get out of his room !" Etc I'd say the neighbours think we're nuts. Either we have to run up and down the stairs 10 times or just shout up to them. The odd time DH will let a roar which makes them bawl crying & more dramas ensue. I've tried closing their doors but they act like I'm torturing them & they've no night lights only main light. I would need to open the doors when the go asleep anyway. Tried keeping them up later but only prolongs the agony to midnight. Ends up we have zero evening & I have zero free time or energy to do anything other then pray they ei go asleep before me. It's effecting everything. On top of the my 7yo DS is becoming quite brattish with lots of I hate you's & sometimes bad language. Our reaction is usually to shout, threaten to take away his electronics etc for a period of time which we do but doesn't make much difference. DS & DD fight 50% of the time sometimes very physical each as bad as the other tho DS stronger. As I work FT it's too hard to impose consistent discipline but am genuinely overwhelmed as is DH which is evident on his constant bad form & tiredness. As the 2 of them are close in age they're very involved in everything the other does so it complicates punishments etc also when I try to give one 1-1 time (and tbh DD hogs most of that) the other creates havoc to divert attention. If i try to do something with eg DS DD will not go and do something on her own, she wont go to DH & she'll make a huge drama that we want her away from DS. The result is neither get enough quality attention though I suspect DD does. I've tried being calm speaking calmly but it's not getting any results they just get more and more hyper and bold. If I could crack bedtime like when they were a bit younger at least there was an end to the day. I also feel totally overwhelmed when I get home from work and both want my exhausted attention when all I want is 5 seconds to sit down & shake off the day.
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