My DS will be 1 in a few weeks and I've been thinking of what to do for his birthday that is special. I know some people think 1st birthday presents/celebrations etc are pointless but it's a pretty significant milestone to me as the first months took their toll but I feel we've made it out the other end. We're not really planning on buying him much in the way of toys or clothes, as there doesn't seem any point, as we buy these for him anyway, but plan to have him a keepsake made from his babygrows and buy a nice moneybox that he'll hopefully have throughout his childhood.
I would also like to write him a letter for his birthday, and hopefully for each year after. I was thinking of putting them away and giving them to him when he was an adult. I haven't kept a diary or a note of when he met his milestones so I thought it was something I can do for him, looking back over the previous year and telling him about it, whilst it is still fairly fresh in my mind.
What I am wondering is whether I should keep it just about his first year, what he has done, the mishaps we've had, how much I now love him etc or whether I should be honest?
I am absolutely besotted with him now but I struggled in the begin - he had silent reflux and screamed a lot, I had PND (and am still on anti-depressants, although currently trying to reduce dose) and although I looked after him and cared for him, it took me a few months to really fall in love with him. It wasn't until he got the meds he needed, I got the anti-depressants and his personality started to come through that I fell head over heels for him and think he's amazing.
I want to be honest in the letter about his first year but I'm just not sure it's appropriate to tell him about my difficulties bonding with him etc even though he will read it as an adult, or at least a young adult.
He's my baby and I don't want him to read a letter from me which leaves him thinking I didn't love him but at the same time I want the letter to be an honest account of his and our first year together.
Any advice?
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Letter to baby for first birthday
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AllTheUsernamesAreTaken · 20/07/2014 21:40
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