potty training- shall i give up and wait?

[bettereveryday]

dd is 2.5 we are potty training day 4 and not a single succesful visit to a toilet/potty...even when she seats on it she i asing me if it's coming...??I try encouraging her and she has potty available and princess seat too but doesnt seem to be interested at all!!

She does get bit upse when she wets herself in ' big girl pants but once is cleaned she is fine...we washed 7x knickers today...

my son was 3 and he did potty training in 2 days, never wet himself after and first night refused to wear nappies. DD has to be potty trained by January so after today I'm panicking a bit...

shall i stop and try again in a month or two??
TIA

[fairylightsintheloft]

why does she "have to be" potty trained? If its for a nursery then you can tell them that it would be discriminatory to keep her out if she was still in pull -ups. DS was 3 before we even started and we only did because we felt we should. he showed no interest in the process and it took a very long time. 2 years later he still not 100% with wee (though never has accidents at school, only at home) and is nowhere near dry at night. In hindsight I wished we had waited and saved ourselves a very very long time of washing out pooey pants, clearing up puddles etc. DD watched what was going on and pretty much did it herself at about 26 months I think.

[Notsoyummymummy1]

We had success with wees on day six but dd (2.5) still won't poo in her potty. We used sticker rewards, didn't tell her off when she weed herself just said next time try it in the potty. We only put her in nappies at bedtime and she wore big girl pants during the day even if we were going out. I think from talking to other mums that the later you leave it the easier it gets. If there's no progress after a week then leave it for a couple of months. There's still plenty of time and it's not something that can be rushed if she's not quite got the bladder/bowel control. Good luck xxxx

[coolaschmoola]

I would stop and wait. I did just that with DD.

We tried at 2yrs 3mths - very little success. Stopped but kept chatting about it, went into pull ups in case she wanted to try, and at 2yrs 7mths she pretty much did it herself. She decided she wanted to use the potty like a big girl, did for a full day in pull ups without incident, next morning did her first poo on the potty when she woke up and that was it - into knickers that morning and, bar a couple of accidents, she's never looked back. I was always told when they are ready it will take a couple of days, so I decided that when it wasn't happening that she wasn't ready, and for her it was definitely the right decision at that time.

This second time - totally painless experience, able to go out from day one, is even getting up to the toilet in the night and waking up dry in the morning although I haven't braved taking her night pull up off yet (she's getting in with us a lot atm and I don't want weeing on!)

[Heyho111]

I would stop she's not ready. There's plenty of time.

[bettereveryday]

thanks ladies, yes she is going to a nursery at school where she is going to be and they expect all children to be potty trained. i did stop for the moment, and will wait a month or so and try again.
way too stressful!

[cyclecamper]

Rather than stopping, let her spend some time with no pants on (it's the right weather!) and have potties handy. Go forward rather than back. Encourage regular sitting on potty with tv/books/treats/her thing. I never 'wait till they're ready', I just have a few days at home with no nappies and lots of potty visits .