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i fear i may cause dh an injury soon. grrrrr

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slightlyinsane · 20/07/2014 13:41

I am stupidly tired, haven't managed to make it to bed in nearly 2 wks, I've been passing out on the sofa when the twins finally give in between 3 & 4 and then up again at 6 with other dcs. I completely understand that dh is up early and works long days so is tired too, I also understand that after having the snip a wk ago he has been in pain. However what I don't understand is why he thinks he can lie on the sofa when he's home and leave me to deal with all 5 dcs I didn't get the chance to do that after any of the kids no matter how many stitches I had. I also don't understand why I'm sat here feeding a baby having washed all pots from breakfast cleaned up kitchen, put washing on and made everyone lunch except myself (run out of bread) while he lies on the flipping sofa watching the stupid grand prix on my stupid bloody birthday. If he doesn't move soon I'm going to kick him in his allegedly really painful bits!!!!!
and breath, apologies for the rant I'm little emotionally tired.

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beeny · 20/07/2014 13:43

Make him do something!Happy birthday

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amy83firsttimer · 20/07/2014 13:50

Happy birthday!!!

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Trapper · 20/07/2014 14:05

Maybe you should seek help and get out of the relationship. Threatening your partner with violence via a public forum is unacceptable behaviour I'm afraid.

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Iggly · 20/07/2014 14:08

Helpful Trapper Hmm

OP - you need to spell all of those things out for him.

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Itsfab · 20/07/2014 14:15

Tell him it is time he grew up and got on with things that needed doing.

I have told the kids I am going on strike if they don't start helping. I am looking forward to it Hmm.

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blondebaby111 · 20/07/2014 14:16

Really trapper!!!!

I think at some point we've all wanted to lash out at our dps doesn't make us a bad person!! Happy birthday op, I think you need to have a chat and tell him you need more help. I feel your pain tho, I get this with my dh too at times x

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fairylightsintheloft · 20/07/2014 19:04

Oh bloody hell Trapper, give over will you!! OP happy birthday Flowers. Step away for any chores. Turn tell him he can have til the end of the GP (I also have an F1 fan as a DH and it is a sacrosanct 2 hrs for him). He however, at that point will get up, make you tea, get the kids to go and do something quietly elsewhere (or take them out) and give you a break. An if he mentions the stitches, do remind him about you 5 births and any aftermath. Be specific, graphic, give details of how many stitches, where and exactly what you did afterwards. And if he does not get off his arse at that point, then I think a kick (metaphorical of course Wink is entirely in order).

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AddictedtoGreys · 21/07/2014 17:02

happy birthday! I would have let rip a while ago to be honest! he's lucky he's got away with it this long! Shock

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Trapper · 21/07/2014 18:23

@blondebaby, I had no idea that it was so commonplace and acceptable. I have never felt the urge to 'lash out' at my wife. I guess I am unusual in that respect then.

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slightlyinsane · 21/07/2014 22:16

Blimey trapper wind your neck in! I have not and will not 'lash out' in a physical way, I will however verbally, through places like this, lash out when I'm pissed off. In no way does it mean I need to "seek help" or leave my relationship. I needed to vent because after 2 wks of 2 or 3 hrs sleep a night I am emotionally and physically drained and I was having a crap birthday. Apologies if you didn't agree with the way in which I worded my post I must try harder next time.

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Finola1step · 21/07/2014 22:24

Rant away Slightly. Rant as much as you damn well like.

I doff my cap to you, my dear. 5 dc including baby twins? Two weeks of little sleep? I would have been weeping on the floor.

This sleep situation isn't sustainable but you know that. I hope tonight is calm for you.

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paddy29 · 21/07/2014 23:09

Seems like a shoddy attempt to equate a lady letting of a little steam about her husband on a forum with domestic violence.

Something I get the impression only a guy would say.

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AnonyMust · 22/07/2014 04:14

Trapper, really? OP is expressing frustration rather than threatening literalness violence. Lol

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MildDrPepperAddiction · 22/07/2014 04:31

He sounds really selfish op. Give him a list and tell him to get cracking. If you keep doing everything he'll let you.

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Trapper · 22/07/2014 18:13

Sorry if I have been over sensitive on this one. And male Smile

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slightlyinsane · 23/07/2014 00:24

It'll be your hormones trapper Wink

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Diamondsareagirls · 23/07/2014 11:57

Slightly you are a superwoman! I have twins but no other children and there's no way I could do what you are doing! Tell your DH to get up off his arse, sore or not, and help you out!
I don't think men see everything we are doing and have no idea how exhausting it all is so you are going to have to tell him! x

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