How do I tackle this? Sorry, long post. A boy in DS1's class said...

[LittleAbruzzenBear]

...to DS1 that he is going to 'kill Beep' (DS2 who is 15MO). When I collected DS1 from school last week on last day of term, he had been crying and was upset. I asked him why and he told me. I asked if he told anybody. DS2 said no because it was just as they all had their coats on to leave and only one friend heard. This is Year1 I should add. This particular boy is friends most of the time with DS1, but does have a mean streak. The parents are both police officers who think he is wonderful and just 'being a boy'. This boy was told off for name-calling, pushing DS1 and others over all the time in Reception last year. DS1's teacher asked the other week if everything was ok because DS1 wasn't his usual self. Do I ignore this, simply write it down (just in case), or speak to the teacher?

[LittleAbruzzenBear]

Sorry, that should say, third line: DS1 said no because

[StickChildrenTwo]

Kill Beep? I'm confused.

[AMumInScotland]

I think you need to go in and talk to the teacher, firstly because it is upsetting your son, and secondly because this boy may need someone to talk to about why he's feeling the way he is. Teachers can often bring up these kinds of things at 'circle time' or whatever in a non-specific way, and/or talk to the individual about it. Best done in person, it's hard to get these things acros in writing.

[LittleAbruzzenBear]

Thanks AMum. Think I may need to do that. Stick I meant DS2 when I said Beep as I didn't want to use his name.

[EvenWickedierDevil]

Agree it is worth mentioning to his Teacher, and as they are so young reassuring your DS that you will protect him and keep him safe.

[LittleAbruzzenBear]

Thank you EvenWickedier. DH sat down with DS1 and said we wouldn't let anybody harm him or DS2.

[StickChildrenTwo]

Ohhh sorry I understand now...I've re-read it and it makes perfect sense now! (sorry!!)

I would definitely have a word with the teacher. Honestly there's no wonder it made DS1 cry. My DS1 is so placid and gentle and would be devastated if someone threatened to kill his little brother! They are fearsly protective of their siblings no matter how annoying they think they are .

I would have a chat and ensure he knows that this other child is being silly and doesn't mean it. Also that you are there to keep them BOTH safe. Good luck. Sounds like a tricky situation. Your poor DS1.

[DonkeysDontRideBicycles]

Came to this thread late but as DS1's teacher had already twigged something was wrong, I would not hesitate to tell her/him. The other boy is getting used to throwing his weight around and could be in DS1's class for years to come so DS1 needs to feel he can rely on you and DH and adults to be 'in his corner'.

[LittleAbruzzenBear]

Thanks Stick and Donkeys. You're both right. I can't leave things and hope it goes away because this boy could do it again. At least if DS's teacher is aware she can keep an eye on them.