I have a bitter ex husband. Doesnt communicate with me about our daughter, he sees her regularly, but he is so caught up in his bitterness that she has to do a lot of accommodating of his feelings and she is only 10. She is not allowed discuss her life with me or my new partner. He often makes decisions thst cut off her nose to spite my face, if you know what I mean. She does not show any emotion around him because she is so afraid she hurts him. Thing is Im 11 weeks pregnant with my new partner. Havent told my younger daughter yet and in a quandry as to whether to tell ex the news myself or not when I tell my daughter. I feel he never communicates with me for any reason even when the safety of the girls is an issue. Telling him the news wont mean he will help my daughter deal with the news but is more likely to be negative. So, should I bother telling him? I want to tell my daughter next week after scan. Do I let her enjoy the news to herself or would it be placing tbe burden of keeping a secret on her shoulders? My new partner who is a very considerate person and totally diplomatic when it comes to the dynamics of our situation feels we shouldnt tell him.My only reason is for sake of daughter but he is not likely to make it an easy situation for her. I do feel it is news she is going to be happy and excited about. I have had mixed react ions from friends as to whay I should do. I just want to chill and enjoy being pregnant without conflict or biterness being directed my way. Advice?
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